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                                after getting out of a toxic relationship


We might be oblivious to the concept of self-love, but we definitely aren’t oblivious to toxic relationships. We’ve all watered a dead plant longer than we should have. And most of the times, we did it without any regret. Now how stupid does that sound? If it doesn’t sound stupid, then you’re probably still watering the dead plant. 

Either way, you’ve come to the right place because this article is for all those people who have the capacity to give love to others, without any limits, but fail to love themselves. 


These are a few tips that will help you reframe your mentality and teach you how to invest in the most important person: yourself.


1. Fall in love with yourself. “To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance” - Oscar Wilde. You need to realise that looking outside for happiness is a sure shot way of never finding any. You’re the only one who is always going to be in your corner. So give yourself the love you’ve been giving to others.


2. Surround yourself with uplifting people. What you need the most right now, is positive energy and hope that you will become your true self again. Which is why you need to be around people who remind you of what you are and who you are capable of being. Reconnect with those people. 


3. Forgive yourself. I know you blame yourself for sticking around too long. You probably think you’re too weak. But let me tell you, giving unconditional love is one of the strongest things to do. Your mistake was to give it to the wrong person. Forgive yourself. Only then you can learn your lesson and move on. Just make sure that you don’t throw your love at a person who isn’t worthy of it, ever again. 


4.Dive into things that make you happy. Now that you have time, focus on your goals and aspirations. Make a list of all the things you’ve wanted to learn. Do them one by one. Whatever you do, do it for yourself. Embrace your strengths and work on your weaknesses. This way you’ll start becoming the best possible version of yourself.         


These steps will take time, so remember to be patient with yourself. And things will get better. 


Constantly juggling between her varied passions ranging from women empowerment and world economics to acting and dancing. An avid reader and an intellectually curious being, Kriti Chaube is currently pursuing her Btech in Computer and Communications Engineering at Manipal University, Jaipur.
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