This is a topic that I have thought a lot about and how to properly discuss it and write about it is something that I have struggled with. The term “love yourself” is filled with a positive message, a message that is supposed to uplift people to have them accept everything that they are. But when it is said, it also has the possibility of being some heavy weight on people. The controversial saying of love yourself is something that I have personally struggled with. Where everyone is saying and though the message has a positive under tone, it almost forces people to try and accept everything for who they are without factoring the fact how difficult that is.
Anything is easier said than done, so of course saying, to “love yourself” is easier to say than in practice. But the difficulty that surrounds this and telling yourself this is something that isn’t talked about as much as needing to love yourself is. The fact is, it takes practice, hard work and time. No one seems to talk about the time that it takes to accomplish something, whenever in recovery or changing your mindset. It takes patience, discipline and knowing that you are doing all you can to try and help yourself.
This is a process. It is learning, it isn’t knowing. You do not learn how to do something all at once, especially something at this level. My mom even said she is still learning to love herself and accept things about herself and she has been around for a while. No one is asking you to have to have it all figured out at once. It might be one of the things that always needs to be worked on and constantly paid attention too to give it your best effort. But saying love yourself, is a step in the right direction, as long as people keep in mind that they most likely won’t wake up tomorrow being totally infatuated with themselves. But that tomorrow you might love how your eyebrows look or how helpful you were to someone. But the next day you might not be okay with your laugh or how quickly you get annoyed. And that is okay. The best things take time, and in a world filled with Instagram photos and snapchats of people who might make us feel insecure because they have something that we want, or their personality is a certain way or how they look, we have to remind ourselves that we are constantly a work in progress and we will constantly have good days of being 100% in love with ourselves and then have days where we can’t even look in the mirror. And that is okay.