The Person I’ve Become from Past Relationships



I am in my early 20’s and have been through a couple serious relationships, maybe more of us have. Now they may have ended well or really terrible, but let’s make those even more positive than just a break-up.

I like to think of past relationships as a learning experience. And if I didn’t go through them, then I wouldn’t know what right and wrong feelings felt like. Like Ari said in her song, “Thank u, next,” “One taught me love, one taught me patience, one taught me pain…” It’s true! These are things some have dealt with and learned from.

Unhealthy was one situation I had gone through. Love is blind and that’s for damn sure. When you fall in love for the first time, you don’t see the red flags or the unfortunate moments that have occurred. And one was a fake relationship. But the longer I stayed, the more I realized what was happening. Friends and family helped as well, but you don’t want it to be real. You don’t want to lose love.

I was smothered and put down emotionally. He purposefully made me feel guilty so I would smother him. Never was I in fear, he still respected me but simply talked down to me like a child that was incompetent. I was certainly blind as it was my first relationship. Thank you for showing me what unhealthy is.

Another had not been too serious about us. I was ready to finally meet someone and connect, but my bad! It was a small connection but he never appreciated what I did. He offered to meet families, be comfortable with one another. But little did I know, it wasn’t serious. He gave me an ultimatum if I wanted to stay or not. That’s when I realized this is no relationship. Thank you for showing me what it means to be appreciated.

Now after those, I stood my ground. I made sure the person I was would be respected and appreciated before the L word would get involved. You don’t have to say “Thank u, next,” but you can work on what is unhealthy if a relationship is. Nobody has time for disrespect and fake love. Find what you deserve. Learn from what’s happened. You can find the right feelings, I have and I couldn’t be happier that I waited for a wonderful man.