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To the Girl Who Can’t Seem to Find “The One”

This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at MNSU chapter.

To the girl who can’t seem to find “the one,”

 

Believe me, I know exactly what it’s like. You may be feeling hopeless and alone, but trust me when I say that you are not alone. So many other girls are in the same place, feeling that same pain and loneliness that you are experiencing.

It may feel as if time is ticking away and you’re just sitting around waiting for your time to come. It seems like all your friends are getting engaged and married and all you can think to yourself is “when will it be my time?

You may start questioning yourself and wondering where you went wrong, but the truth is you didn’t go wrong. You did everything right. The fact is, it just isn’t your time yet.

All will play out in time, just wait and see. You’ve probably heard the phrase “patience is a virtue” at least once in your life. I know that the patience and waiting can be incredibly difficult at times, so hang in there and take this time of singleness to learn to love yourself. Find some things that make you happy and enjoy the time you have to yourself before you are in a relationship and need to share your time with someone else.

If trying to find a relationship is what’s holding you back from living your life and doing the things you love, let it go. Things rarely seem to work themselves out when we sit around waiting. It isn’t easy, but allowing yourself to detach from the stress and anxiety you may be experiencing is for the best.

Last of all, stop worrying about what other people think of you and especially stop comparing your life to theirs. Everyone’s story is different and we all have our own timing when things begin to fall into place, that’s what makes life interesting.

I know the waiting is difficult, but you are so beautiful and strong and most definitely worth the wait. When you least expect it, your time will come and all the waiting will be worth it. That, I can promise you.

My name is Ashley Braun and I am a junior at Minnesota State University, Mankato. I love traveling, cooking, being artsy, and spending time with my friends and family.