College and love…
A very questionable topic, yet most people do it, or at least try. College is a place for us to grow and develop into the wonderful people we are meant to become, all while navigating between adolescence and adult hood. It is a place to develop valuable knowledge for the real world, and find out what the hell we want to do with the rest of our lives.
The real question is… how are we supposed to juggle a serious romantic relationship while taking classes, working, engaging in other activities, and having a social life? Is it possible to do all of them?
Some may argue that having a significant other in college will hold you back, and keep you from reaching your full potential. College is supposed to be your “glory years,””, and many people and articles may say that you should remain single throughout college to get the full “college experience.”
Being in love/ in a relationship throughout college is a lot like taking an extra class that gives you an overwhelming amount of emotional baggage as homework, and making it work is like constantly trying studying for the exams. It’s always going to be a work in progress, just like classes. The end goal is to make everything work, and try your best, and “pass” -or stay together. Just like a college course, if you fail, more than likely you will re-take the class. This goes for falling in love and being in relationships as well, you don’t just give up forever on it, you try again.
Sure, being in love is a lot of work, but in my opinion it is TOTALLY worth it.
In reality, falling in love in college could be the best thing that could happen to you, and teach you exactly what you are supposed to learn in college- valuable life lessons. You will learn how to open up and become vulnerable with someone, which is extremely different from a high school relationship. You are both learning to mature and grow, which is a perfect time to meet someone, and grow together with them. Chances are, when you meet someone in college you are going to have the same interests, and have somewhat of the same goals as well since you are both there to graduate. One of the best things about being in love in college is that you can support each other through all the tough times that college throws at you. Contrary to popular belief, you can still experience the fun that a single person might have- like going out with your friends on the weekend, or studying abroad even if you are in a committed relationship in college. Ultimately, by dating and falling in love in college, you can learn what is needed to have a successful relationship. Even if the relationship doesn’t work out in the end, you still have gained experience that is needed for dating in the future.
In my opinion, you have to fall in love with someone to figure out what you really want in a partner. How else are you going to figure out what you like/dislike about someone if you don’t date and fall in love? College so happens to be a perfect time to experiment, and date around to find just what you want in a partner.