Have you ever thought about someone so much you can barely stand it? That feeling of being completely consumed by someone is too real to handle. Whether you can’t escape the friendzone or you can’t build up the courage to talk to someone, we’ve all been there. Sometimes you just can’t get who you want and then you’re forced to move on. But how do you move on? It can be tricky because you are stuck on what could have been. You can’t help but wonder why you two aren’t together. Why is the universe against you?
You are not alone. This isn’t the universe’s way of punishing you. It’s important to note that some things are not supposed to happen for you. You could consider why that is. Think about these things before the inevitable breakdown. Think about all the times your friends have been in the same boat. What do you tell them? You need to be your own best friend in this moment and listen to your own advice. Take a step back and reevaluate.
Consider why you even want this? Will you gain anything substantial, or will this implode? You could look into taking yourself out of the equation and giving yourself time and space. Sometimes, this is when the other person is completely off limits and unavailable. If that isn’t the case, be honest with them and you’ll feel the weight lifted off of your chest when you admit how you feel. (Yes this is easier said than done) This is when you sell yourself short and think they wouldn’t want you anyway. Consider letting them make up their own minds.
It’s important to be surrounded by people who support you and lift you up. If they understand the situation, they won’t force you to dwell on anything. It is imperative to know that you are worthy and your feelings are valid. A good group of friends can help you forget your slump. And a good group of friends can seriously go a long way! Think about the things in your life that do matter, and steer clear of the things that are simply out of your control. You have to step back once and a while from everything. Watch a movie, listen to music, or even get away. You can get out of your own head when you are busy doing something else. Trust me on this.
Getting over someone you never dated is a special case. It’s different than getting over someone you actually dated because it’s one sided. You feel alone and confused. I know how frustrating this is and how hard it is to step away from their Instagram or Twitter. Just block them all together. Being emotionally invested in anything sucks! Remember, the version of the person we have these feelings for may not be how they actually are in real life. This may or may not be the case, and you should use your judgement.
In conclusion, moving on is hard, but it’s possible. Stepping away and not letting your thoughts overshadow your life is crucial. Remember you are not alone, and you got this. Listen to Taylor Swift, she knows what she’s talking about.