Ask Ellie

 
Here at Her Campus Minnesota, we want to help you create the best college experience you can possibly have! Sometimes though, we all need a little advice. That’s why we are excited to welcome Ellie, an anonymous U of M girl just like you that is here to help you with anything you may need. In her column, Ask Ellie, feel free to ask her for advice on relationships and significant others, friends, crushes, roommates, that cutie down the hall, or anything else you want help with!
 
 
Dear Ellie,
 
It’s my first semester here at the U, and I feel like I’ve already fallen for the “older guy trap”. Said guy and I have been out to coffee a few times and finally he asked me out on a “real” date. We went to a nice restaurant where everything was perfect. We ended up talking for a long time and really getting to know each other. At one point we even hooked up. I felt comfortable around him, so while he was walking me home, I told him that I had a nice time and I wanted to see him again. He said he did too but then he quickly left, leaving me wishing for a goodnight kiss or some certainty in our suddenly awkward moment. Now, it’s been a week and I haven’t heard from him since our date. Is he no longer interested? Was it a mistake to hook up with him? What should I do!
 
-Confused
 
 
 
Dear Confused,
 
My first advice for you is to not assume because this guy is older than you, he is going to hurt you or use you. There are plenty of nice guys that are older than you that go here that will treat you right! Dating in college is probably different than what you are used to, so if the date went as well as you say it did; he probably felt that way too. It’s possible he’s had a busy week, so it doesn’t hurt to text him and see what’s up. If you don’t hear back from him don’t be upset about it or let it make you feel bad about yourself, chalk it up to dating experience and move on to the next one. If you’re second guessing hooking up with him, perhaps next time hold off on the sexual activities until you get to know the guy better, plus it keeps him wanting more! Freshman year is new and exciting, so make the most of it; go on dates with guys that aren’t your type, stay up too late, don’t be afraid of getting your heart broken, and most importantly have fun!
 
Love, Ellie