As many people do, I have had some ups and downs in this rollercoaster of life. I am sure many of us have been upset over a romantic relationship that did not work out, or just wondered why we were not good enough. But the truth is, there is nothing wrong with you. Growing up, I watched countless romantic comedies, thinking that real life would be just like a romcom. This might have been semi-detrimental to my own view of the world. Especially since I used to believe that the only thing that would make me feel 100 percent happy was being in a relationship. However, I am finally learning just the opposite. It is perfectly okay to be single!
Movies, dating apps, social media and TV shows idealize romance in a way that could contribute to something I like to call “singles sadness.” Some people love the independence of being single, while others crave a companion or connection that seems so out of reach. I have realized that I am lucky to have a panel of supportive people behind me in my life; even though I may not be dating anyone, that is okay. I am still a bit of a hopeless romantic, nothing wrong with that, but now I just find love in different ways. Getting coffee with my friends, study hangouts, thrifting, midnight drives, road trips and music are alternatives to being upset for not having a Valentine.
I am on a journey to love myself for all that I am, and I encourage other women to do the same. I am not a professional at this, but baby steps have helped me get to the place I am today. I am a confident, loving, smart, determined woman and I am letting go of single sadness! I am going to trust the timing of my life.
As well as learning to show up for myself, the friendships that I have made enrich my life as much as having a significant other may. Once you realize that being by yourself is not so bad after all, you are on your way to a very successful and joy filled life! Smile, love yourself ladies and continue to be badass!
HCXO, Sharon Curcuru