Did you know that every 98 seconds, someone is sexually assaulted. It happens to both men and women. In fact, 1 out of 6 American women are a victim of sexual assault in their lifetime. Some comments that people make to sexual assault victims just shocks me. Here are some things you should never say to someone who has been sexually assaulted.
1. That happened like 2 years ago. You should really just get over it.
It doesn’t matter how long ago it happened, it doesn’t make it any easier to get over it, like any traumatic event.
2. Are you sure it was rape?
Ummm, I think I would know if I consented or not.
3. It’s just sex. It’s not that big of a deal.
It is a big deal. Rape is not sex, and if you think it is, you need some serious help.
4. We’re you wearing something scandalous? If so, don’t you think it’s your fault?
It doesn’t matter what you are wearing. That is no excuse to sexually assault someone. It doesn’t matter if you are wearing sweatpants or the tightest dress in the world, the person is never asking for it.
5. It could have been worse.
Just don’t say this okay? That’s like telling a person with a deadly medical problem “oh, at least you haven’t died yet.” Like no, just stop.
6. Why didn’t you just get away if you knew that person was trying to rape you?
It’s not that easy. You can make up a plan of what you’re going to do if it ever happens to you, but when it’s actually happening, sometimes you can’t stop it. It’s not as easy to get away from that person as you would think.
7. Don’t you think you’re being a little dramatic? I think you just want attention.
No. If someone is trusting you enough to open up about being sexually assaulted, the last thing they want is attention. We are not being dramatic, and we certainly are not wanting attention.
8. Oh, I completely understand your situation.
No you really don’t. Even if you have been sexually assaulted yourself, doesn’t mean you understand. Every situation is different.