In a world where women want to make the same romantic efforts as men, there is a fine line between “the chase” and “obsessing.” While we aren’t living in the days of courtship necessarily, guys often like when girls approach them, but not in an aggressive manner. This guide will help you obtain the courage (and the skill!) to get a guy without looking desperate.
Do not cyber-stalk him. Yes this includes finding out his last name on your class roster and adding him on Facebook. Instead, simply check out his profile (you don’t even need to add him) to see what he’s about. Maybe the two of you have something in common. Check out his interests. If he likes music as much as you do, subtly invite him to a concert near school. He’ll never know you knew his favorite band. Thanks Facebook!
Do not come on too strong at first. Try asking him to hang out with a group of friends. Once you get to know each other a little better, invite him to hang out one-on-one. You’ll be more comfortable that way, and when it’s just the two of you, you’ll have more time to talk, joke around, and flirt all night.
Do walk with confidence. You ARE hot! Show him what it is that is so special about you. The more that you believe in and appreciate yourself, the easier it is for him to see this sizzling side of you. And hopefully he will realize what a great catch you are!
Do learn to give things time. Rushing into something can be tricky and may not work best in the long run. Have fun! Coming on too strong in the beginning may make him want to reconsider whether he wants something to happen between you both.
Do not be afraid to stand your ground. This doesn’t mean that you should be snappy or sassy, but don’t hesitate to let him know you won’t be walked all over. Let him know that you don’t play games. Seeing that you value your well-being and respect yourself does not come off as desperate. If he is mature enough, he will like that aspect of you (and make you his)!