Okay everyone, listen up: Valentine’s Day is coming and if you’re like me, it can be hard to watch all the happy couples celebrating. I’ve been single for a while and honestly, I’m okay with it. But something about Valentine’s Day makes it a little more difficult. Maybe it’s the guy who I know is buying that bouquet of flowers for his girlfriend. Or maybe it’s the girl getting dressed up to spend the night out with her girlfriend. Or the two boys I see holding hands and who clearly are so much in love.
Believe me when I say I’m so overly happy for all of them! It’s amazing to watch people in love. Still, never having been on date can start to make you wonder if there is someone out there for you. The answer, in my opinion, is yes there absolutely is. Everyone has a soulmate. It’s cliche, but it’s the truth. Everyone has a soulmate, it just might not always be who you expect.
Your soulmate could be a friend. This doesn’t have to mean it’s one of those best friend turned romantic partner stories. It could simply mean your friend is your soulmate. Maybe defining what I mean by soulmate will help—when I think of a soulmate, I think of someone who is supposed to always be in your life. Your souls are connected and no matter what you’re always going to find your back to each other. Sound like that best friend you’ve known since middle school and never stopped being friends with?
A soulmate is someone who cares about you and your well-being. They’re always there for you, no matter what. Your soulmate is the person who, when everyone else walks away, they stay. More often than not, the people who stay when everyone walks away are your friends. So maybe you and your friend since middle school have never been romantically interested in each other and absolutely never will be romantically interested in each other. But you’ve stood by each other through everything and you’ve never walked away from each other. If that’s the case, then yeah, you’re soulmates.
Valentine’s Day is a day about love, so spend the day with someone you love. Your friends, your mom, cousins, significant other, someone you care about. Make it palentines day! Love exists in three different ways: platonic, familial and romantic. Shouldn’t we celebrate all three forms of Valentine’s Day? Friends can be Valentine’s, you can buy mom a heart shaped box of chocolates. Celebrate the people you love on Valentine’s Day. Celebrating Valentine’s Day does not require being in a romantic relationship, just being with someone you love.
That someone can be yourself if you need it to be. It’s okay to splurge on yourself, and give yourself some love on Valentine’s Day too. Buy yourself that ice cream and Teddy Bear. Get that rose for you, you deserve it. Valentine’s Day is about love and it’s okay if you need to love yourself.
Valentine’s Day is a day for couples to show how much they care about each other. There is nothing wrong with couples showing their affection. But those who are single should also be allowed to show their love for their friends, family and anyone else in their lives who they love. The way you celebrate Valentine’s Day should match where you are in your life. It can be about your partner or it can be you eating ice cream watching chick flicks. Whatever it is, make sure it’s about celebrating the love it is in your life.