What do your guy friends, romantic interests, boyfriends, and exes all have in common? You’ve texted all of them at some point.
With most of us are attached to our phones the way we are, it’s no surprise that texting has become a fixture for speedy, impersonal communication. There’s something so liberating about firing off a text that we often don’t think about what we’re saying and how it can be construed. I’ve surveyed a few of the guys I know and come up with a list of texts that you should never send to the opposite sex.
Your Guy Friend:
So what if you’ve known each other for ages, and you couldn’t imagine dating him? There are some texts that just will make your friendship awkward. Avoid at all costs!
“Ask your friend if he’s into me.” When guys are hanging out with their friends, the last thing they want to see is a text like this. Unless he expressly volunteered to play matchmaker, most guys do not want to hook you up with their buddies. Don’t be surprised if he doesn’t answer this one.
Anything to do with your lady bits. I was surprised this one came up. Stay classy ladies.
Your Romantic Interest:
You two are just getting to know one another, and maybe things are heating up. Be careful you don’t scare him off with any of the following:
“You’re such a great friend.” Maybe you meant it flirtatiously, but he can’t tell over text. Save it for when he can see your body language and hear your tone of voice, otherwise it can seem discouraging.
Over-texting. Romance is exciting. You want to text him all the time and you want to know where he is and what he’s doing. Resist that urge. Unless he’s an equally voracious texter, try not to text him too much.
Your Boyfriend:
You’ve been dating for a while, navigating the ups and downs of a relationship. Don’t sabotage it with any of the following:
“We need to talk.” This is a scary for guys even when you two are face to face, and it’s about 10 times worse over text. The suspense will keep him on edge all day, so try to save important conversations for when you two are together.
“I’m fine.” It’s a phrase we use all too often, especially when we are not fine. It’s pretty much a conversation-closer to a guy, and chances are nothing will get sorted out. While it’s never good to fight over text, try to let him know what’s bothering you instead.
Your Ex:
You probably shouldn’t be texting your ex, but if you are…
Do not talk about your new boyfriend. It might make him jealous, or it might not. Chances are it’ll just irritate him.
Drunk texts. A novel could be written on the reasons why this is a bad idea. Have your friend confiscate your phone.
Happy texting!
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