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Staying Strong During the Toughest Times

This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at Marymount chapter.

I would be lying if I said life was easy and all I ever wanted to be. I may look like I have it all put together on the outside, but inside I’m falling apart. If you too feel the same way, I want you to know you’re not alone. In fact, everyone has bad days! There is no such thing as a perfect person. Bad days can sometimes become awful days or even weeks, but it all depends on the outlook you take on the situation. I hope today I can show some of you how you can stay strong during those tough times and bad days.

The first thing you need to remember is that dwelling in sorrow and self-pity is only going to make things worse. You can take a bad day and make it an awful one, just by how you look at your situation. Instead of thinking about everything that has gone wrong in your life, or on that day, think about all the things you are thankful for. Take some time to just be alone, sulk for a few minutes, and then realize how blessed you are. If that doesn’t help, go stand in front of a mirror and just smile. Yes, that may seem weird or stupid, but smiling makes you feel happier inside and may make you laugh at yourself. Regardless, whatever you do, don’t allow yourself to fall into a deeper pit of despair.

The second thing you need to remember is that “you were given this life because you are strong enough to live it.” That is a quote by unknown, but has recently become one of my favorites. I had a hard past and dealt with a few things that I wouldn’t wish upon anyone, but when I reflect on that quote it helps me realize how strong I truly am. I didn’t give up during the hard times and because of the battles I faced I am much stronger today. I believe that anyone can do the same. When the going gets tough just remember how important you are and how strong you are. 

Lastly, when the going gets tough, make sure to spend plenty of time with friends and family. When I hit a rough patch, my first instinct is to go and spend time alone. Really all that does is make my situation worse. I get inside of my head and think about all that is going on and how much worse it could get. When I take the time to be with the ones I love I become distracted from my problems. They know me better than I know myself and can often build me up and make me laugh more than I ever have. Don’t be afraid to be vulnerable. If they are truly your friends then they will understand and can help pick you up when you fall. Just be sure you are there for them when they need it in return. 

So Ladies, I hope you realize that it’s okay to have a bad day and to struggle sometimes. Everyone does! You are so much stronger than you know and by applying the few tips I listed above to your life, it can take a tough time and make it a little more bearable. Remember that, no matter what, the sun always shines and better days are ahead.