Dating apps such as Tinder, Bumble, OKCupid and others have been the rage amongst college aged students. If you are new to the dating app world, here’s some advice on getting your dating profile running, and what or who to avoid:
Choosing a Picture
Have at least 3-5 pictures that show who you are, and what you currently look like. One of those pictures must be full body shot, and another from the chest up so they can get a sense of what you really look like. If you only feel comfortable with having one picture, include your Instagram in your bio so others have a chance to see what you look like. I know it sounds superficial but you would want to know what someone looks like before you begin to get invested in them. With that being said, please leave out the blurry and outdated pictures from your junior year of high school.
When Looking at Profiles
Be wary of the people who cut their head out of their pictures but only show their body. Only accept one shirtless picture, but it’s your decision on whether or not to swipe yes or no. If you are looking for a hookup, you may find you’ll have luck with people who show off more of their body. It may not be an indication that they want to only hook up but the chances may be more in your favor if you are looking for a new friend with benefits. If you are into a guy aesthetically, match with him, and see where it goes.
ALWAYS Read their Paragraph
If you swipe across someone you are interested in and they have a bio, please read it! This is where you will see their true intentions. You can get a good feel for who they are, and what they want.
In your paragraph, make sure to disclose what you want so at least those who do read it will know what to expect. If you are not looking for hook ups than disclose that in the beginning. If you do want a hookup than plenty of people will flock to you if you make it known.
Conversation
When it comes to starting the conversation, I usually wait for the guy to initiate unless something about them sticks out about them and feel the need to break the ice. Some guys are shy and sending the first hello can be detrimental yet there are many that are outgoing. I usually give it a couple of hours after we match and take it from there on who will start the conversation. Remember, do not feel the need to message every guy you match with. Let them come to you some of the time. If they don’t reply, just unmatch or move on. They’re plenty of guys out there waiting to talk to you!
Asking for your Number
Only give out your number when YOU are ready. If a guy is tripping about waiting then he just isn’t the one. Three things you need to find out before giving him your number are: 1. Current situation (such as where he lives and if they’re already taken) 2. Expectations from the app (what is he looking for, rather it be a girl friend or a hook up) and 3. Why he decided to match with you (was it your bio or your cute pictures from your vacation?). These are important things to know about anyone, whether you are going to hook up with or build something with someone.
When to Hang Out
If all goes well, than you will set up a date or just some place to meet up. If you want to do a date night, try a brunch/lunch at a cool restaurant or an evening at the museum. Just remember to have fun and show him who you really are.