Throughout our college experience, there will be guys that we’ll fall head over heels for. They’re each unique in their own way, but in many cases, we regret not telling ourselves, “stay away!” Check out 5 of them listed below.
1) The One from High School
You two never really had a serious relationship, but for some reason, he’s still clinging to the past, sending you incessant DM’s and Facebook messages about how much he misses you. He’s most likely just bored and never really cared about you in the first place. This dude needs a wake up call no matter how much you don’t want to hurt his feelings. It’ll be better in the long run if you let it go, choose to ignore him, and move on.
2) The One who’s a Total Creep
This guy will catch your eye early on into your freshman year. He’s cute, you’re flattered, you’re in college and in a new environment and you’re feeling vulnerable, but don’t be fooled. In “hip” terms, this guy is the definition of “Netflix and Chill.” After talking for two days, he’ll ask something like, “So how slow are we going to take this thing anyway?” Um, how about longer than 48 hours? You’ll run real fast and regret having interest in the first place, but at least it’s a lesson learned.
3) The One Online
At least once in your college experience, you’ll try an online dating site: “OkCupid,” “Tinder,” “Plenty of Fish,” or maybe even “Farmer’s Only” if you’re into that sort of thing. You’ll end up talking to a guy that catches your attention and seems perfect on paper. However, you’ll most likely come to find that he’s only after one thing (that one thing not being your heart), or he’s actually a good guy and it works out for the two of you. In many cases, you’ll chat online and just never have the desire to meet in person, causing the relationship to end quicker than it started.
4) The One Who’s Never Single
The second this guy gets over a breakup, he’s on to a new relationship. It’s a good sign, because it shows he isn’t afraid of commitment, but come on! It’s rare to see this guy single for more than 30 days, but you never give up hope that maybe his next relationship may be with you. Eventually, you’ll realize that it’s a totally unhealthy way of thinking, and move on to being your confident, independent self. Besides, green is not your color anyway.
5) The Different One
You may not have known each other for long, but this guy’s a total catch and give’s you the kind of butterflies you haven’t felt in a long time. The biggest difference with him than anyone else you’ve crushed on in college? The attraction goes beyond just physical attraction. This guy is someone you actually enjoy talking to, share interests and core values with, and could see yourself becoming good friends with. However, you may be facing some roadblocks. Maybe he doesn’t live nearby, maybe he’s already expressed interest in someone else, maybe you’re sure he isn’t interested, or maybe he’s a few years older and is in a different season of life than you are. Whatever the case may be, don’t desperately pine after him, but instead go with the flow and trust that everything happens for a reason. It’s corny, but true when people say, “If it’s meant to be, it’ll be.” Live out your days of singleness with your head held high with confidence, and your heart wide open to whatever God has in store.