Sometimes, we ignore our deal-breakers and non-negotiables in a relationship, even if we know we deserve better. So, please try to avoid doing so. You are worthy of an awesome guy.
Here are 5 common relationship problems that HCMU believes to be deal-breakers: 1) The sexy photos of pin-up girls
Lots of us have been there. You’re dating a new guy, and he shows you his bedroom. There you see it- a Playboy calendar of you know what. Or, you start paying attention to what he’s looking at on social media. Thanks to Facebook’s FBI creep-status features, you don’t even need to dig for it. It will show up on News Feed. All you see from his activity are models in bikinis and lingerie and overtly-seductive selfies from girls he knows who try too hard. Is this men just being men? No, this is a problem, and there are better guys out there. My philosophy is that if he considers a pin-up girl or porn star the “ideal woman,” you have a serious problem. Men who spend lots of time looking at these images have an air of disrespect for women and are looking for the wrong things in a relationship. No matter how much you like him, you need to let him go. He’s not “future life partner” material.2) Not deleting his Tinder account
Tinder and other dating apps, such as Hinge and Coffee Meets Bagel, are becoming incredibly popular. Some people even meet their SO’s online. Yet, there are still guys out there who use these methods to constantly keep their options open. If you and your guy have gone past causal dating, he needs to delete these accounts. If he’s still “active,” swipe to the left ASAP. He’s not ready for something serious.
3) Excessive partying
This is a tough one. There is a fine line between going out to lots of parties on the weekends and the other side of too much partying. My advice is to be watchful. Guys in college like to party. Duh. But there is something called “partying smart.” Women who party within reason need guys who party within reason. There are signs when the partying is not “smart”: DUIs, getting wasted during the week, use of hard drugs, etc. If your guy is there, reconsider.
4) Extreme flakey-ness
Yes, most of us young women who are active on the college dating scene know college guys can be downright flakey. They haven’t all mastered the art of managing their schedules, the ability to follow through with commitments, and sometimes, they are just immature. This is common to see in young guys, but when he consistently bails out on you, that’s a red flag. It doesn’t necessarily indicate non-interest. Instead, it might just show that he doesn’t have it together. And while lots of college guys can be flakey, there are mature, responsible guys out there who will invest time in you. It may take longer to find a guy like this, but you deserve nothing less!
5) Violating trust
Guys who violate your sense of trust are generally toxic. One-time mistakes can happen, but patterns are a serious problem. Trust is one of the foundations of any stable, long-lasting relationship. If you don’t trust your guy, move on. Your relationship is almost assuredly not going to work. Honesty is the mother of all healthy relationships. Without it, you cannot trust, and if you cannot trust your guy, you’re in for a lot of heartache.
What are your deal-breakers, collegiettes? Let us know in the comments!