If there is one thing I’ve come to realize in my 19 years of existence, it’s that if you like someone you should give yourself a chance and go for it! But you have to be sure that they’re available (not seeing anyone), of course.
We are all aware of the signs that signify whether someone is interested in us: the staring, their inclination to always want to be near you, them finding ways to talk to you and the list goes on. But what stops a person from making the first move is the fear of rejection.
Let’s admit it; no one wants to be rejected, especially by someone they like. So oftentimes no one makes the first move and both people miss out on a potentially life-changing relationship.
In college I have noticed that there are two types of girls: the ones that wait for guys to ask them out and the ones that ask guys out themselves. Seventeen magazine says, “These days girls are making the first moves and guys are just becoming lazy daters. The new ‘aggressive’ girl seems to be taking the stage, and the spotlight.”
Guys have a lot of options in college and maybe that is why they don’t feel the need to ask girls out and why girls should definitely take the initiative.
I asked sophomore engineering major Makda Alazar if she would ever ask a guy out and she said “No because guys are the ones that are supposed to ask.” She believes in ‘traditional dating roles’. I also asked sophomore criminal justice major Cassie Perez the same question and she simply said “No,” because she would be too scared and has never felt the need to.
So it is evident that there are still girls that adhere to the traditional dating roles, but now we are seeing an alteration in tradition where girls are making the first move. I spoke to sophomore civil engineering major Akeem Alade who told me that a girl asked him out before and although he felt awkward and was not prepared for the situation he said yes.
What have we learned? Take a chance and ask the guy you like out especially if you know he might like you too. You could ask him to a study date at the library or out on a real date, whatever you’re most comfortable with.