As the Cheetah Girls so gracefully put it in their song titled Cheetah sisters, “Cause we are sisters, we stick together,” us girls are always looking out for one another. Well, not quite. This may be true for the spotted foursome, but not College Park’s average girl.
If there’s one thing that both girls and the military seem to have in common is that we both abide by the rule of don’t ask, don’t tell. If another girl apart from those in your handpicked circle asks you anything about a guy, you don’t tell. It is also true that you do not ask girls apart from those in your circle for information about a guy. The reason why? It will always be biased and not in your best interest.
More often times than not, if a girl asks you about a guy it is because she has interest in him or he has shown interest in her. As his ex or the friend of his ex who most likely was the invisible third party in their relationship, your first instinct is not going to be being his biggest advocate. You’re most likely to dumb him down into your average Joe saying things like “Oh him, yeah he’s alright, but not as attractive as that other guy.”
Divert the attention from him with things like, “I think I saw his friend looking at you earlier.” Or you could play him up to be the worst guy she could ever date (unintentionally of course) mentioning his rather large past dating history and inability to settle down. Doing all of these things is wrong. Exes are exes and spreading a bad word really does nothing but make you bad news.
What this ultimately leads to is a network of girls that is essential useless to one another. All being connected, but no one is sharing any information. Girls don’t want to give up information if they feel as though it might result in a girl landing with their ex, or even worse avoiding the hell of dating their ex through given advice that they themselves never got the chance to receive. Knowing this, no girl will ask another (apart from the inner circle four) about a guy. Now do you understand this vicious cycle?
The results of which are a bunch of girls harboring information about guys and allowing one another get screwed over. While this happens, guys freely and generously hand out information about girls as if it were packaged in some campus wide database.
While a girl asked about a guy will answer “Umm, I don’t really know much about him” all the while thinking “This girl better not,” a guy asked about a girl will answer with “Oh her yeah the tall brunette? She used to go with *insert friend name her* freshmen year, I heard she was a *insert insult here*.” This is not to say to be an open book about guys, but just to look out for a fellow female and stick together in the words of the Cheetah sisters.