Dating In College
When I was in high school, all my older friends told me that dating would be a lot easier in college. More people = more options = easier to find the best SO, right? Hypothetically, that’s true. But in reality, a lot of things about dating get messy and complicated in college. Here’s why dating in college in the best and the worst.
Pro: More people. There’s plenty of fish in the sea, and a good chunk of them happen to go to school with you. At college there are so more opportunities to meet people. At a school of about 10,000 people, I get to meet new people everyday, a luxury I didn’t have in high school.
Con: More people. Meeting new people everyday makes it really challenging to get to know someone well, especially if you only have one class with them. More people also makes it more likely that you’ll meet someone who none of your friends have ever met. It seems difficult to feel comfortable with someone who is essentially a total stranger.
Pro: Levels of commitment. If you’re looking for a serious relationship, there’s definitely someone else who is too. And if you’re looking for a casual hookup, there’s definitely someone else who is too. This is great because you don’t feel like you have to compromise what you’re looking for just to find someone.
Con: Levels of commitment. Some people at college are seriously considering marrying their significant other while some people don’t want to even think about settling down. If you and a partner have different ideas about where your relationship is going, things are going to end up badly.
Pro: Location. Living in the same city, potentially blocks away or even in the same building, as a significant could be really exciting and convenient. If you want to see them, it takes just a few minutes to get there. Since you live so close, you can see them at any time of the day, which is pretty cool.
Con: Location. When school is home and home is school it’s really hard to avoid people. If things don’t work out with someone, there’s a good chance that you’re still going to see them everywhere. While this could happen in high school, you get to go home at the end of the day knowing that you won’t see them. Not in college though! You may just be walking around in your building in pajamas and run into an ex or someone you’re interested in. Doesn’t that sound terrible?
…And there you have it. The official account of why dating, or trying to date, in college is simultaneously the best and worst thing ever.