By: Adrianne Hutto
Call me crazy, but I’m someone who’s role model is a fictional character from a television show set in a very real place, New York City, and the show, of course, Sex and the City. Growing up in the south, the show’s six seasons and two movies were my bible. As a result, Carrie Bradshaw is Jesus and unsurprisingly, the woman whom I model my life after. And though I am a spunky, blonde woman with great taste in shoes, I am not a Carrie but a Charlotte, dead set on my dream home, marriage and children. Nonetheless, the words of Carrie Bradshaw will guide any woman, in any state of life, whether you’re a Mirand or a Samantha.   Â
“No Matter who broke your heart, or how long it takes to heal, you’ll never go through it without your friends.”
In the season two premier, Carrie is fresh off a break up with big and tries to ignore it by taking out a Yankee player. Which, naturally, doesn’t go well and she runs into Big (her ex) on her date.Â
The lesson in this episode is that break-ups can be difficult, and while everyone wants to just move on, sometimes it’s better to just feel your feelings. A recurring theme inSex and the City is the importance of friendship. Getting your heart broken sucks, but at the end of the day your friends will always be there for you.Â
“As I sifted through the rubble of my marriage skirmish, I had a thought. Maybe the fight between marrieds and singles is like the war in Northern Ireland. We’re all basically the same, but somehow, we wound up on different sides. Sure, it’d be great to have that one special person to walk home with, but sometimes, there’s nothing better than meeting your single girlfriends for a night at the movies.”
In this episode, season 1 episode 3, Carrie goes to the Hamptons to stay with her two married friends, but ultimately ends up having an awkward encounter with the husband forcing her to leave early. This prompts the conversation of marrieds vs singles and how single people often feel alienated by those who are married. And though most of us haven’t quite gotten to that stage of life yet, this is still an applicable lesson for dating in your 20s.
Most of the time when a friend gets into a relationship you can feel that they forget about you or don’t care about their friends anymore. In this episode, Carrie explains that there shouldn’t be a “cold war” between those in a relationship and those out. She also explains that we shouldn’t be in a rush to get into a relationship or to get married, the right person is out there and with time we will find them.Â
“They say nothing lasts forever; dreams change, trends come and go, but friendships never go out of style.”
In this season two episode, the girls are off to the Hamptons where Carrie runs into Big and his new, younger girlfriend. While there is a whole mess of other things happening, this episode showcases the importance of the friendship between the four women.Â
This line is so strong because even 23 years later it still holds up. Everything in life is ever changing and if you can find friends who will be your constant, then you have something really special. I think oftentimes it can be easy to get hung up on little things, especially when you’re in college, but when you’re out in the real, adult world, friendship is the most powerful thing.
“I’m Someone Who Is Looking For Love. Real Love. Ridiculous, Inconvenient, Consuming, Can’t-Live-Without-Each-Other-Love.”
This line comes from season six, “ An American Girl in Paris: Part Deux,” where Carrie realizes her relationship with the Russian isn’t working and wishes to go home to New York. Moments later she is caught crying on the streets of Paris by Big who has come to get her and confess his love.Â
It can be so hard today to find a love that burns this brightly but it is important to remember our worth in relationships. We should never stop looking for what we want out of love and have to settle for anything less than the best in order to get it.Â
“The most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you find someone to love the you that you love, well, that’s just fabulous.”Â
The line that ended season six, and what a way to end it. At the end of the day Sex and the City  show cased so many feelings: love, anger, heartbreak. But the most important feeling was self-love. Loving oneself is the only true way to find someone who loves you.