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By Emily Gianni
With the upcoming winter break, you may find yourself connecting high school friends you have not seen in a few months, maybe even longer. Going out for coffee or Target runs with high school friends may yet again become a regular activity.
While back in your hometown for Holiday Break, you may find yourself feeling a little too comfortable. This may lead to thoughts such as, “That person actually got really cute since I last saw them.” And what should you do about this? Should you enjoy the hometown hookup, or avoid it? I am here to tell you that there are different circumstances and different answers as to when you should avoid or indulge in the classic hometown hookup.
First, you have your high school crush. Just because you liked them then, does not mean that you have to like them now. Just because you’re home for break does not mean that you should hop on the first chance to get with them. You go to a new school with a whole set of new people, why should you go back to high school relationships and old drama?
Next, you have your high school ex. This is a big NO. You are ex’s for a reason, and there should be no reason why you are hooking up just because you’re in the same location again. You did not work out for a great reason, and even if that reason is lost in memory, it’s still a NO. This may bring old feelings back. Again, you want to show them that you have moved onto bigger and better things in college: not falling into the old trap of ‘I want you back.’ You want to show them that you are better than when they left you. Getting back with an ex is a big red flag. Hold your head up high and ignore those ex’s.
Then, you have those people who you never really spoke to in high school. You think that it may be nice to get to know someone new. If you didn’t talk to them in high school, they probably aren’t more interesting now. There was a reason why you did not talk to them in the first place: they weren’t your type, you did not like their friends, you thought they were annoying, the list goes on.
Lastly, you have those kids younger than you: maybe one or two years younger than you. Break is about to start and you get a text from them, “Hey, let’s hangout over break.” You are in college, you have no reason to be hooking up with people more than a year or so younger than you.
Moral of the story is that you are in a new school, with new experiences. Do not settle for that hometown hookup. You are moving onto real life. You left high school for a reason, and there is no reason to revert back down to high school hookups.
Bigger and better things are to come, even if you do not know it yet. You will most definitely meet someone better than these high school interests. Try to avoid making mistakes you’re going to regret.