As humans, we constantly find ourselves in a whirlwind of conflicting thoughts: a broken record of right and wrong, positive and negative notions that shape the way we make decisions, approach everyday problems, and define ourselves. How is it possible then, with all the daily stressors and societal influences, to rid ourselves of those negative feelings of self-doubt? How do we cultivate those feelings that lift us up? It seems nearly impossible to find light in what seems to be utter darkness, but with a few constructive tips you will find yourself shedding the negativity and learning to love yourself again.
1. Replace the Weak with the Strong
The only way to combat these pessimistic remarks is to replace them with complimenting words. We find this love embedded in self-encouragement, gratitude and positive words. Instead of saying, “Crap, I failed this test, I am so stupid,” say, “I failed this test, there is always room for improvement. How do I grow from this?” The words you articulate in your mind will always come out into reality one way or another, so you might as well spread good rather than bad into the world.
2. Gotta Love Rejection
The one bad thing about being young is that thoughts of the future are forever lingering. During this swarm of uncertainty, the idea of not knowing the destination has to drive us forward. A feeling of inadequacy can accompany the many rejections that naturally come in life, but remind yourself that rejections are the way you get placed outside your comfort zone. Accept them, adapt from them, and allow them to help animate your journey. Remember: a curved path has more adventure around the corner than a straight, smooth one.
3. Smile=Fuel: It’s 100% Free
When you wake up in the morning and before you go to sleep at night, one way to strengthen your mind is to mentally list different things you are grateful for. Life is notorious for taking away, but it is also equally generous. Practice reflecting on things and people that can kick up that dopamine and rise that beautiful smile out of you. Whenever you feel like something isn’t fair, or something doesn’t go the way you’d hope, keep your eye on the things that make life worth living. You’ll find a higher concentration of appreciation because of it and will stop taking the little things for granted.
4. Endorsing You!
We are our own worst critics. Each gaze in the mirror consists of analyzing things that don’t live up to our own expectations, as well as in the parameters of society. It is so easy to compliment strangers and your friends, but we don’t spend enough time treasuring ourselves. You are so used to your features, you do not realize how beautiful you look to strangers. A great tool to help kick start any day is to write words of encouragement on your mirror. When the rotten words come to mind, make room for words filled with affirmation and kindness. You wouldn’t dare bully a friend the same way you talk to yourself in the mirror. Grasp those flaws by the hand and love them as they are. Try writing words like: worthy, intelligent, exquisite, loveable, and striking.