Mental health affects 1 in 4 adults between the ages of 18 and 24, and yet many college students are not informed of this statistic, and as a result don’t know how to approach mental health issues. The objective of this article is to provide a forum of informational discussion for people who have experience with mental health, either with themselves or with others.
Much like a fingerprint is unique to every single person, mental health issues, and the experiences accompanied with these issues, are similar. My personal journey with mental health may be completely different than someone else’s. In which case, I would like to preface that the information in this article is based on my experiences with mental health and may not directly apply to every single person.
Because there are so many different facets of a mental health disorder, describing each of them and how they affect college students on a day to day basis would be unrealistic. That is why I will be focusing on my specific experiences, in the hopes that it will benefit those struggling to come to terms with their experience regarding mental health.
For as long as I can remember, I have been actively aware that I have mental health issues, prior to ever being diagnosed. At times, it would feel incredibly frustrating not being able to pinpoint why certain feelings would come about, and difficult to understand how to realistically deal with those issues. As logical person, I was incredibly confused when I would experience intense waves of emotions, with no obvious event that inflicted these feelings. It wasn’t until I actively decided to seek some answers, that I finally understood why I felt this way.
Two years ago, I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety, but more specifically major depressive disorder, generalized anxiety disorder, and post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Finally having the answers to these questions I had for the majority of my life seemed to make things easier, but I knew that I still had a long way to go. These mental health disorders had majorly impacted the way I encountered day to day interactions, and throughout high school, small tasks and events seemed much more stressful than they did to others. Exams, school drama, social events, and even meals became anxiety driven. The reality of this situation is whether or not people experienced these similar emotions, 1 in 4 young adults have grappled with mental health disorders but do not feel like they can discuss it openly – I know I didn’t feel comfortable speaking up either.
Mental health is a controversial topic but the only way to combat it is to become an ally and be willing to start the discussion, even when you have no idea of where to start. There are three important ways in which you can become an ally to those with mental health disorders.
Listen and be there
First and foremost, know that if someone is coming forward about their journey with mental health, it isn’t an easy task. Due to the society we live in, most of the time conversations like these will be turned away because of the level of discomfort they feel. The first step of being an ally is acknowledging that what they are going through is real, and realizing that these feelings should not be dismissed. The most important way in which you can be an ally is simply being there and listening to what they have to say. Try and focus on that person and really tune in and listen to what they are saying. In addition, try and reiterate that you will be there if they need comfort.
Create a Judgement Free Zone
As mentioned earlier, coming forward to friends and family about mental health issues can be a struggle, therefore it is incredibly important to provide a space where they are not being judged for their thoughts, feelings, or actions. Providing this space for them will make them feel more comfortable and willing to be open with you. Not only that, but this act could potentially help shape how they will open up to others.
Know that it is Okay not to have an answer
At the end of the day, it is okay not to have the perfect advice. Even going as far as asking that person, “How can I be here for you?” or, “What do you need from me?” can go a long way as it is a sign that you care about them and acknowledge that what they are feeling is indeed valid. Know that your job isn’t to give them advice or even try and make them feel better – you don’t need to find the perfect words because you aren’t a licenced professional. To be an ally is to be open and willing for your friend or loved one. Let that person know that you are there for them and that they have a confidant.
What this article all boils down to is being able and prepared to take the first step to have a discussion of mental health disorders and experiences associated. As a society, we need to be the generation that debunks stigmas of mental health and lead the discussion. College is a time to grow, but it can also provide a forum of knowledge to subjects people aren’t privy about. This is your chance to make a change!
To those out there who are experiencing struggles with mental health, know that your feelings are valid. Although having allies is such a crucial component to challenging the battle associated with the stigmas of mental health, there are also great resources that will be linked below both on and off campus. Stay strong and continue fighting because you are worth it.
LMU Student Psychological Services
Suicide Prevention Lifeline or call 1-800-273-TALK
Trevor HelpLine/ Suicide Prevention for LGBTQ+ Teens or call 1-866-488-7386
Crisis Text Line or text HOME to 741741