So, Valentine’s Day is quickly approaching, as I’m sure you all know because the world won’t let us hear the end of it. If a girl is boyfriend-less on this “most sacred of days”, pop culture offers her few options. She can either: 1) Weep into a heart-shaped box of chocolates alone in her room watching romance films, or 2) Do the above activity with her equally single girlfriends after spending an emotionally devastating night at the mall shopping to make them feel better.
SCREW THAT!!! Valentine’s Day doesn’t own us; we own it. Just because a women hasn’t chained herself to someone doesn’t mean she should be dragged on the emotional rollercoaster every time she sees a couple walk by or commercials for heart-shaped everythings. Nobody wants to be that girl trapped in their dorm room with only the face of Channing Tatum to console them (even though he is beautiful). So for every girl who finds herself single this Valentine’s Day, here are some steps on how to survive with your mind, and, most importantly, your tear ducts, intact.
Step 1: Stop Feeling Sorry For Yourself
Before you can start doing anything of enjoyment on your “Single Valentine’s Day”, you really need to give your pity party a rain check. Think about it; you’re still young, you’re in college, and you still have the rest of your life ahead of you. Why not make the best of it? Though it might seem tricky at first to stop your lonesome woes, it’s really not difficult at all. Tell yourself this: “you DON’T need a boyfriend.” You don’t. It’s not the time for you to be crying about not being in a relationship. It’s not even a quarter till the time for you to be crying about not being in a relationship. The girls from Sex and the City went on date after date throughout their six season duration, and still none of them found true happiness until they were in their late 30s to mid 40s. Having a boyfriend on Valentine’s Day doesn’t mean that it will be the best day of your life.
Step 2: Make Plans with Friends
A mistake that a lot of girls make is thinking that they are the only person in their friendship circle without a Valentine. You have single friends, whether you believe it or not, that are just like you. If you’re crying in your room, and they’re crying in their rooms, what’s the point? You might as well get together. Now, that doesn’t mean cry on each other’s shoulders, it means go out and do something. Treat yourselves! Just because you’re single on Valentine’s Day doesn’t mean you can’t have fun. Make the most of your night. Even if you do not want to go out because you think it will be too hectic at night, make smaller plans. Here’s to the the best, stress-free Valentine’s Day you’ll ever have!
Step 3: Pamper Yourself
After your night of excitement has taken you to numerous places, use the rest of the night for a little self-rejuvenation. Put on a comfy pair of pjs and pull out your favorite movie (not a romantic one) and get under a blanket with some of your favorite treats. Indulge in a bowl of popcorn, a couple glasses of sparkling cider, and get that big fancy box of chocolates. Because who doesn’t eat chocolate on Valentine’s Day?
For all the “single ladies” out there, I hope this will help you to transform your Valentine’s Day from one of bitterness, to one of fun, exploration, and new horizons. And remember, it’s only for one day. The next day, those same couples who were being all lovey-dovey are probably going to end up fighting about something stupid. Those chocolates that were so expensive are going to be half off. All the balloons are going to pop, and all the roses are going to wilt. Even if that show-off in your one of your classes is constantly talking about what her boyfriend did for her, the story will be old news in a couple of days (maybe even hours). In other words, life goes on. Why waste away a day, no matter what the day represents? As I said before, you’re young, so go have fun!
Step 4: Remember what it’s about
Since couples have taken over the worold we forget that valentines day is ultimatelty about love. So choose someone special in your life and love them extra. You’re not a loser if your mom or best friend is your valentine! You might also consider being your own valentine and walking around like an untouchable forcefield. Either way don’t give into the tradition and just LOVE <3.