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The 411 on LDR’s

Long Distance Relationship tends to be a scary concept for most. The question people ask about this type of relationship is whether they should commit or give up on the relationship? How to keep it alive? Why do people agree to this? And how do many people commit to an LDR? Well my friend, I can answer all these questions and establish whether or not a LDR is suited for you.

  1. When do people begin a LDRs?

Usually LDRs begins right around the time you prepare to go to college or simply move away from home. The age range tends to vary but it’s most common in young adults. The idea tends to appear in those who have been in a long-term relationship with a significant other or someone you already have known for long period of time. When preparing for the future, relationships are not always accounted for when it comes to your college choice. Things such as favorite or financial situations cause the couple to separate. However, this is no one fault, it just happens.

  1. Do I commit or let go? Decision making.

Deciding whether or not you want to commit to a LDR is actually up to you. There’s no right or wrong on if a person should or shouldn’t commit because it’s a transition from a Close Distance Relationship to LDR. Mainly depends on how much you’re willing to commit and stay together and your plans after college. Trust me it’s not easy but if you know you partner really well and trust them, it can work. If you decide to commit, check guideline #3. If not, check guideline #4.

 

  1. How to keep it alive?

We live in the 21st century where technology is so evolutionary that it is very possible to keep in contact with someone far away. There are mobile apps, cell phones use, and computer use. You can use, Skype, Oovoo, the phoneor the computer. Facetime, Glide, Tango, texting, or just simply calling on your phone. This way you can communicate through the distance. How long/much you communicate depends on you and your partner. Sometimes communication can be slow via text or calls but it’s always better when you guys meet again.  Plan out visits and meets, ALL SCHOOLS HAVE BREAKS! (For athletes, scheduling is difficult but they do have break time too.) Being committed may be lonesome at times and it happens due to clubs, sports and other things you and your significant other are committed too. As long as you’re happy with this decision, knowing that you keep the person you love, you made the best decision. Just know this is about your happiness.  If you believe that it just won’t work, skip down to guideline # 4.

  1. How to move on?

Since you have decided not to commit, you probably would be going through some emotions,but this is fine. It is hard letting go of someone you love but it doesn’t mean you can’t find another. This also means you have time to focus mainly on yourself and not to worry about another being. In a way it sounds cool because you don’t have to stress or worry about your significant other. If it’s too hard you can become friends or refer to guideline # 3 to commit. If you fine and feel that you don’t need the long distance, do whatever you think that make you happy. Just remember you have to think about yourself and your happiness.

  1. How many people succeed?

There are many successes and there are many fails for LDRs. LDRs depends on the person, situation and how they resolve their problems. Majority of people who are in LDR tend to succeed because of the build of excitement over the time the couple haven’t seen each other. Also when reunited, the couples tries to make most of the visit to keep the relationship alive. The couples who doesn’t succeed mainly have different preference from their lover and complications occur causing failure. Again, LDR success depends on the person.

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