When you were a little girl, did you ever pull petals off a daisy wondering if a boy loved you or, unfortunately, loved you not? If only deciphering men’s emotions were so simple. Many of us spend our time trying to decipher how he really feels based on body language and chance interactions. Although everything seems to be up in the air, here are a few signs that may help you determine which petal may be on in his mind.
He can’t decide if he likes me or another girl better.
Verdict: He kind of loves me, but is not worth my time.
If you are seeing someone, but he is weighing his options between you and another girl, he is probably interested in you. Take a moment to ask yourself, why would you waste your time with someone who isn’t making you his top priority? You don’t want to be in a relationship with a person who is indecisive when it comes to emotions. You want to be with someone who is head over heels in love with you. You shouldn’t have to wait for a guy to make up his mind between you and another girl. Knowing he is even considering dating someone else is not going to be good for your self-esteem if, in the future, you come to really like him. In this case, my advice is to just let him go because you don’t want to be strung along and end up disappointed. Be with someone who makes you the center of attention!
He texts me first.
Verdict: He loves me.
When your man texts you first, you should light up! It should make you feel good that he is thinking about you at that very moment because chances are, he is. If a guy is initiating text message conversations, it’s a clear sign that he’s expressing interest in you and wants to spend time with you. It also shows how often he thinks of you, which, if he does a lot should show you how much he cares about you. Keep in mind, however, that if he isn’t texting you first you shouldn’t automatically assume that he doesn’t care. Some guys like it when the girl texts them first because they love to know that the girl is really into them as well. Nonetheless, if a guy is texting you first, you can most likely infer that he likes you and wants to get to know you.
He doesn’t introduce me to his family.
Verdict: He loves me not.
Typically, family is one of the most important factors when determining if your boyfriend is going to stay or not. Many people are close with their families and value their opinion. It is always a good sign if your family gets along with your boyfriend. But, what happens when he won’t even introduce you to his family? A guy who is eager to introduce you to his family is clearly interested in starting a more serious relationship. If you have been dating for a while now and you feel like he is avoiding having you meet his family, something is wrong. This could mean that he isn’t ready to dive into a serious relationship. If a guy loves you, he won’t care what his parents think of you, he will just want you to be a part of his life.
He doesn’t want to have long conversations on text message.
Verdict: He probably loves me, and I am probably freaking out over nothing.
A good rule of thumb in all relationships is to not overly analyze anything sent via text message! Texting is such an impersonal form of communication when compared to face-to-face interaction, so messages can easily be misinterpreted. If a guy does not want to have long conversations over text and is instead sending you short messages back, don’t assume he doesn’t like you. He could be busy or he could prefer to talk in person. A simple “ok” text is not the kiss of death for your relationship.
He’s very touchy-feely with me in private, but not in public.
Verdict: He might love me or he might love me not.
If a guy is not touchy-feely with you in public, it could mean several things: on the positive side, it could mean that he doesn’t like PDA and wants to keep your private life private, or, on the negative side, it could mean that he doesn’t want people knowing you’re dating or is trying to cover up your relationship. A lot of guys are uncomfortable with a lot of PDA and, like many girls, believe that it is not necessary to shove it in everyone’ faces how in love you two are. Aren’t you grossed out when you are walking to class and you see a couple making-out in the middle of Warch? I know I am. On the other hand, if he is ignoring you in public, he might be keeping his options open. If this is the case, you shouldn’t waste your time with him. If you can’t gage his feelings about your relationship, definitely confront him about it rather than entertaining the wrong ideas.
These implications can help you determine if he “loves you” or “loves you not”, but make sure not to overanalyze anything. If something is really bothering you or you are confused about the status of your relationship, confront him about it! In a relationship and in virtually all aspects of your life, honesty is the best policy.
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