Over the past few days the topic of discussion this week, between my friends and I, has been sex. It all started with a very interesting Cosmopolitan article on snapchat about giving head. This humorous article spread through my friends like wildfire, bouncing from DM to DM. We were very interested in a topic that we otherwise wouldn’t really talk about. Sex is usually this thing that people avoid, especially in public places, well not my friends. We talked about it in my dorm room, in the dining hall, and at the mall with all the wondering eyes and listening ears. What started off as humorous and harmless conversation flourished into something serious when my friend Reanna voiced her frustrations with her elementry school sex ed class.
Her main point was that she was not taught that sex is 50/50, her exact words were “I was shown how to put a tampon in (which was unhelpful), a video of childbirth, and that was it. Opposed to my boyfriend’s class where they learned that masturbation is healthy. This baffled me because women are never taught things like that. Our pleasure is nonexistent, which makes sex one sided. So for majority of my life I thought that once he’s done, it’s done.” Now I didn’t have a sex education class, coming from the wonderful Philadelphia School District, everything I learned about sex came from the whispers in the wind and what my family thought was important for me to know. Thankfully my mom instilled in me that I am a Queen, my body was created to do the most powerful thing possible, and It should be worshiped.
While explaining this to my friends, I felt the need to share my favorite piece of poetry to date with them, “What I Wish Somebody Told Me About Having Sex” by Daysha Edewi (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ir2e29IKLYw ). There’s a quote from this poem that hangs above my bed, “Your body’s a temple, so never let a man in that doesn’t take the proper time to worship you because you are a goddess that is truly worth sacrificing for.”
We are all queens and goddesses. I hope that every woman who reads this realizes that, it’s what I was taught and certainly what I will teach my future children.