Dancing with the Stars, book tours, modeling, The Bachelorette, and marriage troubles. It’s been a crazy week for people (me!) who love reality TV. If you are on any social media you probably know Secret Lives of Mormon Wives season four premiered last week. The season was filmed in Fall 2025 and gave viewers a lot of insight into drama that’s been exposed in the past few months.
In season three, the women were able to audition for Dancing with the Stars. Jen Affleck and Whitney Leavitt were the lucky two that got chosen to be on the show. This already gave tension to the group and in the newest season more drama was uncovered. Whitney got backlash online for smiling and looking like she laughed when Jen was eliminated; however in episode 9, Jen and Whitney got into a yelling match and Jen told Whitney they were no longer friends. This was the week before Jen got eliminated and gave Whitney a valid reason for being glad she was leaving. Along with that, in the interviews Whitney was very gracious that the women came to support her and Jen, while Jen only acknowledged herself.
A controversial (and unnecessary) addition to this season was “DadTok.” The women got this show because they became popular on TikTok as Utah Mormon influencers trying to change the normal roles of a Mormon woman. These women have now become performers, authors, brand designers, and business owners. Most of their husbands are stay-at-home dads and are supported by their wives. The husbands have created their own friend group that focuses on the struggles of stay at home dads, but they also like to complain about their wives and see who can hide things best. Personally, I watch this show to see what the women are up to and their drama. I think adding the husbands to be a main part of the show just made them all look worse.
Even though MomTok started out as a fun TikTok hobby, it transitioned to a place for women, specifically Mormon women, to feel seen. This season brought a lot of vulnerable moments about past sexual abuse. During their reunion for season three, Mayci Neeley, Mikayla Matthews, and Connor Leavitt all opened up about their past abuse. In Mayci’s memoir, Told You So, that came out this past year she showed how important it is to share stories, so viewers feel comfortable and supported to open up and not lock trauma away.
A favorite part of this season was Whitney growing in herself and her opportunities. This season she found the balance of being a good friend and supporter, while also putting her best foot forward in her career. Her success on Dancing with the Stars and her transition to Broadway was uplifting to watch. Another heartening moment was Miranda and Chase’s co-parenting relationship and the effort they put in for their family. Chase also had a redeeming moment when admitting to Mayci and Mikayla his past actions and statements were not okay.
I have watched every season of the show and this season was definitely less “fun” to watch because of the serious topics and personal troubles being brought to light. It felt like I was watching therapy sessions and mental breakdowns rather than the usual petty drama. I think it’s great they are showing that social media does not reveal the whole story and that their lives aren’t perfect. Yet, I believe a break from filming and media would highly benefit them.
There are more aspects of the show – and after the show – that I don’t have the knowledge or information to speak about, but overall this season was entertaining (like always) and I can’t wait to see what happens from here!