Letter to Those Waiting for Love

I want to let you in on something I wish would have been able to tell myself in the past. Time and time again I see people talk about how much they want a relationship-how they want to be in love, and how they feel like their time is running out. I’ve even felt like that before, I’m 19 and I haven’t even held hands before. 

Something I wish I’d known sooner was to stop expecting or wishing for it to happen. Thinking about it like that puts you in a mindset that love is something unattainable to you-something you have to wish for on a shooting star, but not something that could actually happen, otherwise you wouldn’t need a star to wish on.  

I used to feel like life was a race, and that everyone else were gaining these experiences and running straight past me, leaving me all behind, alone with only dust to relate to. But life is not a race, but a mere path we follow at our own pace. Everyone has a path unique to them, and they go along it in their own way. Some people like to run, while others, like me, prefer to stroll, to feel the wind in their hair, to stop and admire the flowers on the way, or maybe even stop for a second, sit on a bench, take out the book they are reading and enjoy the weather. That is all to say, life is what you make of it, and it’s yours alone to enjoy. 

Once you are living a life you love, a relationship will only be the cherry on top. From experience, I can say that it will find you when you least expect it. It might be a slow process, and you might not even notice it until it hits you right in the face, but it will happen. To anyone reading this and it hasn’t already, it will, only if you believe it will.  

One day you’ll find someone who makes you smile at every stranger who crosses your path, as if they know exactly how excited you are to be with them. You’ll find someone who takes away all your anxiety- the kind when you’re watching the clock, just waiting for the knock that signifies their presence. And after the waiting has felt like an eternity, but also not quite long enough, you’ll hear the knock, and your heart will leap out of your chest straight into your throat. Your breath will catch as you make your way to the door, but just as you open it and the sight of them on your front porch, as the summer sun fades and the air just cool enough to bear, you’ll be able to breathe again, and they’ll smile at you and you’ll wonder why you were ever scared.  

You’ll find someone who will go on midnight drives with you, and even when exhaustion from the day has ransacked your body, neither of you want the night to end. Just maybe you’ll be driving with the windows down, the cold air from the night flowing across your face, and the dark, black, inky sky illuminated by the streetlights when a slow love song starts playing and you’ll look over at them and realize- this is what it feels like to be in a movie. 

So, to all of those who think they’ll never find love, or to those who feel they need to rush into a relationship just to keep up, don’t. Love will find you. It’s been said many times before, but I’ll say it again: comparison is the thief of joy. So, keep walking your path at your own pace- spend time doing whatever makes you happy-and one day, you’ll be completely and perfectly and incandescently happy and in love.

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