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In Defense of Living with Your Friends

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Isabel Woolley Student Contributor, The University of Kansas
This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at KU chapter and does not reflect the views of Her Campus.

We are often told that you should never live with your friends because it can damage your friendships, but there can be benefits to living with those closest to you. From late-night rants to increased honesty, living with your friends can strengthen your relationships. In this article, we’ll examine the benefits of living with your friends and try to pinpoint when it can work.

Conflict

It can be hard to confront your friends about conflicts, especially when it’s been going on for a while. That’s why you shouldn’t let it progress that far. Try saying something the first time your roommate misses their chores for the week or leaves their clothes in the dryer past when it’s done. This helps them realize you notice things and prevents you from stewing on a little thing until it gets blown out of proportion. It also serves as a reminder because they likely just forgot, ran out of time, or got distracted. It may be easier to manage conflicts with someone you’re not as close to, but working things out with your friends can increase trust and respect.

Comfort

Your roommates can make or break your college experience. Feeling uncomfortable in your living situation can affect your grades, mental health, and physical health. Living with your friends can mitigate these effects because you have your support system close to you. Whenever you need to rant or spend time with someone, your roommates are right there. Moreover, living with your friends can improve your relationships because it gives you the opportunity to get closer. You no longer need to coordinate schedules to hang out; you can have impromptu hangouts in the kitchen as you make dinner. The comfort of living with your friends can make the possible downsides worth it.

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Habits

We all have them, and they can be good or bad. Some like to sleep with the TV on, while others need it to be quiet and dark. It’s good to talk to your friends about their habits before you start living together, especially if you’ll be sharing a room. You can find roommate compatibility checklists online to help you identify habits you may not have considered, such as guest and study preferences. If you and your roommate are too different, it may not work out to live together because habits are hard to break. Finding a good roommate can be hard, so leaving yourself the option to choose from your friends is a good way to ease the difficulty. 

Conclusion

Roommates are an important part of your life, so having them as your friends can be beneficial. There are some downsides to living with someone close to you, but they should never lead to the end of a friendship if you are open and proactive. So, why not give it a try the next time you are in need of a roommate?

Isabel is a senior majoring in accounting on the pre-law track at the University of Kansas. She is a member of the writing team in KU's chapter of Her Campus.

Isabel is the president of KU's chapter of Phi Alpha Delta Pre-Law Fraternity, where she helps to plan events for students considering law school. She is also a member of Beta Alpha Psi, the accounting honors society at KU.

Outside of writing, Isabel enjoys reading, cooking, and spending time with friends. Her favorite weekend pastime is watching shows with her roommates.