I’m basically writing this article to validate myself and hopefully validate some of you. Over the past few months, most of my TikTok and Instagram feed has been filled with all the cute girlies that know exactly what their style is – fashion wise AND home-decor wise. Well, I would definitely not include myself within those cute girlies. Don’t get me wrong, I’m still a cute girly, just not with a specific style. I’m sure some of you can relate.
The first, and probably biggest, reason that I don’t have a fixed style is that my mind is always changing and always thinking about change. However, I don’t consider this a bad thing at all as I am the type of person that usually enjoys change. I change up my hair a lot (although a lot less frequently than I used to), my go-to outfits are never the same and I find myself staring at the rooms in my house questioning if I actually like the set up. I’ve only had my living room painted the current color for six months and I already want to change it (my boyfriend is not very fond of the idea).
Initially, constantly seeing videos and posts with women styling themselves and their space cohesively with certain patterns made me question my own style and such. I questioned what really was my style, and how does what I wear everyday all go together? The truth is, it doesn’t. My kitchen doesn’t exactly go with my bedroom style, and the living room doesn’t go with the office. Sure, I have my accents somewhat matching throughout and I would consider the ‘vibe’ the same. But I really don’t have a ‘style.’ The same goes for when I’m walking out of the house with my outfits on, each day brings something different. I don’t have certain shirts or pants that I seem to have more of because they fit my style, I have more of a variety of clothes that are mixed and matched frequently. I definitely would not be a person that others say “oh I really like her style” towards.
At this point, I honestly don’t care about having a particular style, as I like switching things up and constantly learning new things about myself. I obviously have different items of clothing, jewelry or makeup that I tend to prefer at different times. Right now, I really like bodysuits, a few simple silver necklaces and using tubing mascara. But in a few months, it’s likely that won’t be the same at all. And really, what fun is it anyway to always dress the same, to never change up your house/apartment/dorm or never splurge on a new makeup routine? It might work for some people, and it might be comforting for those of us that do have a specific style and intend to keep it that way; there’s nothing wrong with that. But that will simply never be me, and I’m OK with that.
For those of you who are similar to me in the way that you don’t have a fixed style, don’t worry about it – it’s probably much more fun being a bit chaotic anyway.