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The Highs and Lows of Being Single- As Told From a Hopeless Romantic

Let’s be honest, being single can be a pain in the ass, especially when cuffing season hits…but it can also be the best freaking thing, and here’s why!

High: Everything is YOURS!

It sounds incredibly obvious, but have you ever had to wait to finish a Netflix show for months? Or anything for that matter? It’s so infuriating! I have never seen the end of Stranger Things, and that feels like a damn crime! Besides wonderfully made 80s-based shows, however, the space and lack of another person always being present is magnificent. Don’t get me wrong, having other people around you is great, but there is a real beauty to being by yourself and eating all your leftovers in one sitting while binging whatever amazing show you see (maybe Stranger Things?). Knowing someone isn’t by you can actually really change your mentality from “yeah, this is still comfortable” to “well, might as well eat the rest of the cheesecake.”  Being comfortable and being content are two incredibly different things, and once you feel both sides properly, my god can things really can change for the better.

Low: You’re Kind of Lonely at Times

I’ve had my fair share of being single (hence this article), and it sounds cheesy, but after a while you really do see things in sets when it’s unnecessary or think of really cute date ideas that you can’t go on. I was in a really adorable little market area the other day, and I audibly said “this would be the cutest date idea” and had like an out-of-body experience as I watched myself realize I was alone, and it really sucks! Like I’m preaching how great being single is (and it is, we’ll get there!) but not getting to have someone to go places with can get really hard, especially in college where it’s literally a social connection wherever you go. Being alone and being single are different is such a strange way, because on one hand you’re happy to be by yourself, and on the other, you’re really miserable, and I think that’s where it becomes different for different people.

High: You Can Date the Hell Out of Yourself!

I was the most excited to write this part, because dating yourself is the most exciting and relieving feeling in the entire world. No one knows you better than yourself. You know what you like to eat most, what you like to watch when no one else is around, your favorite face mask, yoga routine and more! You know what you love, and when no one else is around, that’s when you not only get to do it, but when you get to figure it out. One time in a moment of feeling clever, I thought maybe I would be like secretly good at cooking after all these years suddenly (I was not) but it was fun to try, and had I not given it a shot, I wouldn’t know and maybe not had as good of a time at trying (I really did have fun too! I baked after, and that turned out much better). I guess my point of all of this is that spending time with yourself and getting to know yourself through and through can be the most fun experiement. Seriously though, date the hell out of yourself, because honey, you’re your own best date and you don’t need anyone to feel whole!

Low: All Dates Are With Yourself

Okay, it sucks that it feels like this in public sometimes, but when I’m out by myself just feeling good and doing stuff that I like just with myself, I truly just end up feeling like the Kevin Jonas meme where he’s staring at his phone waiting for someone. Like I’m not even waiting for someone, but in the back of my mind, I’m thinking everyone is looking at me, watching to see if I’ve been stood up or something, and so much of that I think is just because of society’s pressure that going out by yourself is strange (which is messed up in itself, but that’s for another article). Genuinely though, that is something that I hate that I acknowledge and still do every single time, because it doesn’t feel like the normal thing to do, so naturally I think we tend to just treat it as this uncomfortable thing that we must avoid at all costs and keep the single date nights behind closed doors.

High: You Can Flirt at Any and Every Moment

All parts of a relationship are pretty freaking great, but the new stages of flirting and getting to know another person has to be the most thrilling! When you’re in a relationship, obviously flirting with someone else isn’t as common then, so when you’re single, get that flirting in!

Low: You Don’t Get to Fall in Love with Your Best Friend…Yet!

This is kind of a double-edged sword because on the one hand you obviously don’t get the perks of truly loving the person that you’ve found is really similar to you and you work well with, however, if you read a few up in this article, you’ll know that you can be your own best friend, and that’s pretty freaking cool. You may not get to be lazy in love and get the actual relationship parts of a romantic relationship, but you still get to fall in love with yourself, and I think that’s pretty amazing!

If you take nothing else from this, I really hope you get to fall in love with you and all the weirdly wonderful things that make up the wonderful being that is you. You’re your own best date, and I hope you get to date the hell out of yourself in the best way possible.


Kristin Berchak is a senior Digital Media Production major. She works as a showrunner for an entertainment show for TV2, The Blurb, loves running, writing, reading, baking, creating and just staying busy! She loves movies and television (and far too many baking shows!) She is very excited to work as an editorial member for HerCampus at Kent State University!
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