Do you ever feel like you’re constantly trying to figure out guy language like it’s some sort of code? Every text message or weekend conversation seems to be a mixed signal that you end up misinterpreting. The truth is, guys aren’t that hard to figure out. Just like in the movie “He’s Just Not That Into You,” rarely is the girl the exception to a guy rule, so here are a few guy-isms decoded.
“I don’t want a relationship right now.”
You’ve been hooking up with this guy for a while. You’re not hooking up with anyone else and you hope he isn’t either. So you finally have “the talk” and he says, “I like you, but I’m not looking to be in a relationship right now.” My advice to you: GET OUT NOW! He obviously means that he’s not looking for a commitment and while he might like you a lot, his saying he’s not ready for a relationship is his way of getting around looking like a jerk for hooking up with other girls at the same time he’s hooking up with you Chances are, he’ll move right onto the next one.
“It didn’t mean anything.”
Most likely if your guy says a hook up he recently had didn’t mean anything,he’s telling the truth. However, if you’re exclusive with a guy and he slips up and hooks up with a girl at a party and it “doesn’t mean anything”, you have to decide if that’s something you can deal with. Why would you want to be with a guy who is willing to put your relationship at risk for a meaningless hook up?
“I’ll call you.”
There was once an episode of “Friends” where Chandler went on a date with Rachel’s boss and HATED her but at the end of the date he said, “I’ll call you.” Of course he didn’t mean this at all and Rachel’s boss ends up waiting like a crazy person for a call that was never going to come and a relationship that was never going to happen. If a guy says he’ll call, he might. But there’s also that ugly possibility that he just didn’t know how to end a date that he didn’t want to be on in the first place.
“I think we should take a break.”
Anyone who has ever been in a high school relationship knows that taking a “break” really means taking the express lane to a break-up. A break is essentially a way for a guy to prolong the break-up process and leave you with false hopes of getting back together.
Occasionally there’s the chance that your guy just needs a little space and has been feeling overwhelmed by the relationship, but otherwise, a break is not something you want to be going on.
“My ex is crazy.”
How many times have you heard a guy complain of the “psychotic ex-girlfriend?” Ok, sure she might be trash talking him or continuing to stalk him at parties, but what you have to think about when a guy says he has a “crazy ex” is that he probably did something during their relationship or break-up to account for this. It seems like every guy says his ex is crazy and statistically, that just isn’t possible! So before you go ahead and believe that the ex is a mess, try and subtly find out what happened with their relationship before the same thing happens to you.
“It’s not a good time; can we talk about this later?”
If your guy is using this phrase, he might as well just be
saying, “Can we never bring this up again?” Maybe you
“It’s not you, it’s me.”
This is the biggest lie that has ever been uttered by a man and yet, possibly the most classic break-up line in the English language. In 90 percentof cases, this line is untrue and generally is code for “it is you, but I don’t want to tell you all the psycho stuff you’ve been doing.” On the other hand, it can also be used as a mechanism to protect the other person from having their feelings be hurt. Consequently, this tactic usually just makes the person on the receiving end feel worse. Don’t go asking yourself what you did wrong for hours, days or even weeks after hearing it. Next time a guy drops you that line, just remember the subtext and know that he wasjust too scared to say what was really on his mind.
So there you have it! Guy language; decoded. Men may seem like a foreign language sometimes, but if you step back and really think about it, it’s easy to see when they’re being truthful or not.