With Thanksgiving break rapidly approaching and Winter break soon to follow, us collegiettes™ have some much needed R&R to look forward to! Catching up with old friends or just simply lounging around in our pajamas while our parents cook, clean and fuss over us because they’re so excited for us to be back are just a few of the many aspects of home life we can all daydream about as we sit in our classes, anxiously counting down the seconds until FREEDOM.
So what happens when amidst your daydreams of turkey and pumpkin pie, you are interrupted by “the ex text?” The ex text happens when out of the woodwork a former flame, fling, boyfriend, or whatever else you want to call it, randomly texts you a week or two before you go home and says something like, “Heyy stranger, when are you going to be home for break?” Confused by this seemingly out of the blue text message, you are compelled to do one of three things. One, ignore this text like it’s the plague. Two, you’re bored and in class and answer him merely for the entertainment factor, even though you fully do not intend on seeing him at all when you’re home. Or three, you are secretly so happy to hear from him and hope that something starts up again when you get back in town.
It’s not unusual to have a little fling over a school break. In fact, sometimes it’s difficult not to have one. With certain friends not home at the same time as you, your parents at work during the day, breaks can sometimes be boring unless you have someone to share them with. And usually, it keeps the time in your sleepy town mildly entertaining. There are, however, a few things you should watch out for before diving back into the Ex Files.
Don’t forget how you two ended!
While it might seem fun and exciting that someone you really once cared about wants to be back in your life, you have to remember if the last time you saw each other you were on good terms. If this guy is someone you always end up fighting with, chances are it could happen again and then you will end up stressed out during Thanksgiving break only to end up having to see him AGAIN over winter break.
Lay down some ground rules!
You might be looking for one thing out of this romance, but your guy might be looking for something completely different. Mixed messages can often lead to a lot of awkward conversations that you wouldn’t generally want to be having while on a so called “vacation.” Before you start things up again, make sure you’re both on the same page with what you want from each other.
Take it slow!
Although you two might have had some serious history before, rushing back into things could cause a lot of confusion and perhaps too many emotions for one week. Maybe start off by going to dinner or watching a movie at his house and just fill each other in on what’s been going on in your lives to see if you both are even still compatible with each other! After all, people change and grow at college everyday!
So when you get that “out of the blue” text message within the next few days, don’t be alarmed or creeped out. It’s only natural to want to have someone to share all this free time with during the upcoming holiday seasons. But remember to never forget your history, establish ground rules and, most importantly, take it slow. Happy Thanksgiving Collegiettes™!