I’m writing you for a very important reason.
Not to be rude or any other fear you may have initially had upon seeing this. No. A better reason. The truth is, I’ve had my time to grieve and I’ve had my time to be bitter. I’ve had my time to roll my eyes at the photos of the two of you together and pretend like he never existed. Things were easier that way for awhile. But he did exist … and the truth is, he existed in a very big way in my life. But we’ll get to that later. I’ve had my time to cry and wonder if i’d made the biggest mistake of my life or if this was simply the way of the universe telling me that there’s some kind of different plan for me. There was.
But now is the time I reach out to you to say thank you.
Now I know what you are thinking so hear me out. I’m not writing this in a sarcastic tone so don’t read it in one. This isn’t a prank, this isn’t a game. But I do need you to listen carefully because what i’m about to say is so important. I once loved the boy you love right now and I loved him with my whole heart and then some. It wasn’t ever just a game to me. It wasn’t a relationship to pass the time, and although it had its fair share of complications, it was everything I wanted in my life then and all I thought i’d need in the future. But life got in the way and sometimes, the things we thought were meant for us, weren’t.
You can’t force things.
But rewind so many years back to when we were still kids just trying to figure it out. Before we had to pay bills or worry about graduating college and advancing to some meaningful life path. Back when all we cared about was wearing our crush’s jacket. Back to middle school. The man you kiss now was my first crush. But back then he was only a boy. We grew up together from that point on. Became best friends. He was the closest person I had on this Earth besides my family. He was my confident, the person I told everything to. He’d sit on the phone with me while I cried myself to sleep on my roughest nights.
The guy did everything for me … and now you are lucky enough to be the woman he will give his whole heart to.
The reason I told you all of that wasn’t for nothing. It was to let you know that you have something incredibly special right now and I beg you to treat it with all the care in the world. When the two of us ended things, I didn’t just lose a boyfriend, but a best friend. The guy i’d spoken to everyday for seven years just went away all of a sudden and I never heard from him again.
Because of that I hated you. For months I would see photos of you pop up and hope it was just a fling, but it wasn’t. It couldn’t be for him, because he was above all of that nonsense. You were always this easy person to hate. But the truth is, I don’t hate you. I don’t even know you. But I do know that you make him happy, so you really can’t be all that bad. In fact, you are probably kind and sweet, and had we ever met with different circumstances we may even be friends.
All I ask of you is this: Don’t break his heart. I did, and if there was a way to have avoided it, I would have. Treat him well, and he will be the best boyfriend to you and maybe more one day. He will always remember the little things you told him and he will go out of his way to make sure you are happy and feel loved at all times. After almost a year, I am finally happy for the two of you. I am happy you came into his life and gave him a reason to smile again.
Thank you for taking care of my best friend. I wish you the best of luck with all sincerity.
-Your boyfriend’s ex