I’ve been best friends with my best friend since 2011, that’s seven whole years that I couldn’t imagine taking on without her. We’ve spent some time over every weekday and good portions of weekends together since we were 11. So, when college decision were coming out, there was a lot of heartache. We always dreamed of going to college together and just talked wildly about living on the same street one day, but the world is much different than a fourteen-year old’s day dream. When she got into Virginia Tech, her dream school, I was ecstatic for her, of course. I just knew it wasn’t the place for me. I battled with it for months, wanting to be close to her but knowing my heart wasn’t in the school. I came to James Madison University, and I knew that this was the place for me. That was heartbreaking, as dramatic as that sounds. I was scared that my best friend, my other half, my future maid of honor, might get other friends and replace me. I was also afraid I wouldn’t make any other friends.
Thankfully this was not the case
My best friend and I talk the perfect amount, so we try to keep each other in the loop, but also don’t try to smother each other. Always a call away, but never to make a call too many. A video call here and there and the exchange of fun memes over DM. It’s not ideal, but we make it work. Whenever were together we talk like we haven’t missed a beat. We update each other on trash assignments that we put off for too long, or quizzes and tests we didn’t study enough for. If she needs, or I need, to just pour my heart out, I know I can just text her and update her on boy drama and just homesickness.
We make it work, but some days are hard. I can promise you that if you’re in the same boat, that your best friend is irreplaceable. Which is just fine, you don’t get multiple other halves. I just like to have my person that can mutually complain about the world to, and just be content with it. I just like to have my person who I can sit silently in a room with. She’s my person, so if you have worried or are worrying about being replaced or becoming too distant, I can assure you of one thing: If a person is meant to be in your life, a couple months away from each other can’t change how much you love one another.