At some point throughout your life, you will meet that one person who will sweep you off your feet, and show you cloud nine. Every relationship is different and it is important to know the value of a healthy one. When beginning a relationship, it is completely normal to have the butterflies and feel all crazy-eyed for the other half. Eventually, those feelings will develop more into a mature feeling where the word love can be tossed around. Being in love may be one of the best feelings in the world because it gives you an opportunity to walk on cloud nine every day. However, it is highly important to understand why you love that person. During the course of the love period you have learned to accept the person for who he (or she!) is, each person should be strengthening each other, and there shouldn’t be any insecurities.
Healthy, loving relationships should be based on three qualities: feeling that the person is your best friend, trust and respect. For once, you feel completely like yourself and aren’t embarrassed by anything. The other half should feel the same, and each person should accept the other for whom they are.
Trust is the most important component to any relationship because without trust nothing can exist. A person should not have any fear or anxiety based on where the other half is or what they are doing. It should be free flowing, where each individual is not performing a Spanish inquisition. There shouldn’t be any questions of, “Who are you talking to?” or accusations of cheating. When there is no trust, there is potential for a person to be in control of the other. To prevent this from happening, there needs to be open communication. Open communication is what prevents the anxiety and worry of any relationship.
The last essential quality of a relationship is respect. It is necessary to have respect of each individual in the relationship. Respect allows each person to grow as an individual, and to not bring them down. But what if the relationship comes to an end?
During a breakup it is important to stay strong and healthy. A day or two after the breakup, a person may want to sit around and cry. That is normal. Recognize the negative emotions that are surfacing such as loneliness, anger, fear, shame, uncertainty and sadness.
All these emotions are healthy, because it allows a person to grieve. Once you are in tune with the emotions, the next step is to do something that will help yourself. This can be done through exercise, splurging on a manicure/pedicure or talking to friends and family for support. Talking to those who support you is key because they are those who can help direct the judgment and thoughts when it is clouded, such as reminders as to why the relationship failed and that you are a strong independent person to move on.
Also, do not self medicate through the use of alcohol or medications. Channel the sorrow into starting a new hobby, creating a new routine, keeping a daily journal and reminding yourself why you should be happy. During the course of a breakup, an appetite can be lost or increased. A loss of appetite is not healthy because it can lead to weight loss. Eat small snacks through out the day and drink a lot of water. As for an increased appetite, stay away from the greasy and fatty foods. Greasy and fatty foods are only going your mood worse.
So during or after any relationship, it’s critical that you as a person do not change for anyone or for any reason. Being true to yourself and having those who love you surround you will help you get through the happy times and good times. Also, don’t have the fear that you may never meet another person. You will meet “the one” when you’re ready!
Sources:
http://dating.about.com/od/breakupsrejection/tp/afterabreakup.htm
Â
Â