With the holidays approaching, relationships are ever-changing. People are coupling as it is cuffing season, however, no one wants to be in a situation where they get dumped on Valentine’s day out of the blue, She is a few ways to know if you’re in a healthy relationship.
1. Be happy, love more
To love someone else you have to be fully content with who you are as an individual. It is very common in today’s society to feel pressure to jump into a relationship; for the comfort, the gifts, the support, and of course the Instagram posts. I am a strong believer in dating with the intent of ending up with someone you could spend a lifetime with. However, you’re not going to find that potential significant other if you aren’t content with yourself. Searching for love as a way to find happiness, unfortunately, isn’t going to fix your problems. In most cases it will make you feel worse in the end. The best thing to do is take the proper time to focus on yourself, discovering your true passions and making sure that you are the best version of yourself. A question to ask yourself is what are your goals and dreams. Finding your passions and becoming your dream version of yourself rather than jumping in a mediocre meaningless relationship will serve you much better in the long run.
2. Stay just the way you are
If you are always wanting to change the person you’re with, then maybe they aren’t the person for you. The same goes in reverse, if your partner is always trying to change things such as your physical attributes or your lifestyle, then you need to reevaluate and see are if you are really meant for one another. Especially if you are both are struggling to accept one another’s flaws. A true relationship involves partners who love each other for who they are. It’s okay to push your partner to be the best version of themselves as long as it’s done in a healthy way and both of you are staying true to your identities.
3. Trust is key
Relationships are built around trust. If you can’t trust your partner, then you need to seriously reevaluate your situation. You have to be able to trust someone in order to fully love them. A never-ending battle between you and your partner always wondering where the other person is, what there doing, and whether or not they are cheating on you is one of the most painful experiences a human being can encounter. NO ONE deserves to feel that way or worry whether or not their partner is being loyal. Nowadays, technology makes trust issues even worse since access to other human beings is as simple as a slide right on an app. The best thing to do is be with someone your comfortable with. Don’t pursue a relationship if you can’t be loyal.
4. It’s your life, live it your way
As I said before, and I will say it again, you and your partner have to make 200% to be in a happy successful relationship. If one person is depending on the other, then this will lead to insecurities and unhappiness. If your partner is bringing you down or isn’t motivating you to be the best version of yourself, then you’re better off without them. It’s okay to go through hard times and have a partner build you up, everyone needs a shoulder to lean on, but you shouldn’t constantly depend on your significant other.
5. Communication is Key
How can you know what’s going on with your partner if you don’t talk to one another or express your feelings? Hiding your emotions from your partner only leads to big unnecessary explosions. The key to a successful relationship is communication, being able to listen to one another is one of the most important factors in maintaining a successful relationship. If you are unhappy or uncomfortable with something, the best way to handle the situation is to calmly explain why this isn’t okay. Going forward as a couple you should both reason and make adjustments accordingly to ensure that you are both satisfied.