As I’m beginning this article, I should note that I am starting to see the benefit(s) of a binding marriage. It should really be illegal for guys to say the things they say and then disappear. In a marriage, you can’t really get ghosted (I think). Unfortunately, I have thought about this for so long that I’m set in my views. I have tried to explain my reasoning to my friends and family, but at this point, it’s easier for me to put it in writing.
Because I’m a female, from a very young age we think about boys, marriage, and having kids. Like most very young girls, I always said I never wanted to get married or have kids. My mom would always brush it off and say that one day I would. Some important background information: my parents are still together, I was in a five-year relationship up until this year, and I am currently single but prefer being in a relationship.
Why I don’t want to get married:
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I don’t like being the center of attention.
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I believe, if you really love someone, you shouldn’t need a ring and a contract.
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Anything beyond a small wedding is a waste of money.
Why I don’t want to have kids:
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I get annoyed easily.
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Postpartum depression scares me to death.
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I don’t value my DNA nearly enough to put more of it into the world.
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I wouldn’t want to bring a child into the world we have now.
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I believe that giving birth to your own child instead of giving a home to a child in need (i.e. foster care) is selfish.