The Turkey Dump

The second place for most annoying is clear. For all women, the puzzle of objectification is presented in every public area. Men appear to be incapable of restraint when it comes to booty.  In fact, men are strongly visual which result in your LBD or apple bottom jeans triggering his nature to possession. Studies on men and women show that men instinctually value body shape over social status. This proves that a man is more likely to whistle than ask you out for coffee. Regardless of all the scientific studies explaining the issue of objectification, the action in itself is inexcusable. Women are beautifully intricate and incredibly powerful. Therefore, we should never be reduced to the level of an object. Like Doctor Noam Shpancer said, “genes do not establish traits or behaviors, they establish potentials.” This indicates that the behaviors learned by men are partially culturally taught instead of being entirely neurological or physiological. But while making an effort to educate men differently, we must also realize our own weaknesses. In the same study on men, women were also asked to rank the importance of body shape and social status. Surprisingly, they responded strongly towards social status instead of body shape. This shows us that the stereotype of the gold-digger is slightly more realistic than we would like to imagine and we truly are not as unbiased as we might like to believe.  

The third and most important issue is intimacy. Expert Frank Cox cites that the number one reason for divorce—and relationship failure in general—in America is sexual failure, or a lack of reciprocation. Guys seem to have high expectations for what they will receive; hookups and friends with benefits stem from these desires as well as an attitude of egocentrism. Apparently, the world revolves around their head—and not the one with a face. Scientific studies on human sexual physiology reveal that, for men, arousal comes before desire. Desire, by definition, is dependent on longing for another person whereas arousal is a primal reaction to stimulus. Healthy and enduring relationships take work, communication, and desire. For a relationship to be successful there must be more than arousal. Culturally, we have begun to lean towards no-strings-attached and other similar methods of satisfying the need we all have for intimacy and companionship these methods provide no reason for men to work or provide reciprocity if they are able to receive the benefits without being called to mutualism. Perhaps, for the quality and length of our relationships, we need to revise our ways of acting and loving to include hard work and communication if we wish for reciprocation emotionally and physically. Now, I understand that not every relationship is destined for marriage and that many people have no wish to commit at that, or any level. Regardless of personal feelings toward the matter, communication and work are vital to any interaction inside or outside of a relationship.

Evidently, men and women need to do some work. Before blaming men for being idiots, try looking at it from a different perspective and considering from where their apparently stupid actions are stemming. Often there is a decent explanation or, at least, something we can all try to work on for the future.