Dear, Collegiettes!
As a college student, you have a newfound freedom now that you’re away from your overbearing parents and way-too-small hometown, the freedom to date and explore the opposite sex in a way you couldn’t have under your parents strict supervision.
Whether you’re dating someone, “talking” to someone, or crushing on someone, your relationships with boys in college play a very important role in your life.
Which brings us to this week’s topic: Boys! Boys! Boys!
Boys; you can’t live with them and you can’t live without them.
They’re easy on the eyes, soft on the ears, and they smell nice (sometimes), but as a college student there are some precautions you must take when you begin dating and building relationships.
You Are Your Top Priority
College comes with so many perks: parties, new people, and events, but you have to remember why you’re here. You’re here to get an education and better your life and if there’s one thing that will distract you from your priorities, it’s a boy. I’m not saying to lock yourself in a room and stay away from boys. Not at all. However, if you’re going to get involved with someone, make sure you have your priorities straight. Do not sacrifice your academics, goals, or career for a relationship that may or may not last. Stay focused.
Your Boy Should Make You Better
If you do decide to get involved with someone, it is wise to be with someone who wants to help you succeed. If your boy is constantly urging you to skip class or put homework on hold just to spend time with him, he has to go! He should push you to do what you need to do and it should be evident that he wants to see you succeed. Someone who truly cares for you will make you better. Your boy should be a positive influence. He should give you encouragement, not a headache.
Don’t Overwhelm Yourself
As I said, you’re in college to educate and better yourself; boys are just an accessory — not a necessity — at this stage in your life. Don’t get too wrapped up in a romance (unless, of course, you came to college already in a committed relationship — you go girl). College is filled with stress-builders. From finances to homework, college is already overwhelming enough without adding the stress of a bad boyfriend. If he takes too much of your time and energy, then you may need to rethink the relationship. If you put so much energy into him that it jeopardizes your academics, then he has to go, honey. I know he’s “hot” and “such a nice guy,” but is a hot guy worth flunking out of school over? I don’t think so.
You Must Communicate
College is a difficult time and if you’re in a relationship then there is going to be added stress. Whether you’re dating or crushing, you MUST communicate. You and your boy should be on the same page. If you think you two are dating and he thinks you both are just friends, it could easily lead to disaster. Put everything out on the table and let your boy know where you two stand. For those already in a relationship: if you are committed to your significant other (and he to you) then you must do one thing while you’re dealing with the pressures and stress of college — communicate. Whether you’re in an argument with him or just stressed out over classes, talk to your beau; communication is key.
Boys are awesome, they really are! But don’t let the Axe and the hair gel control you, stay focused and be wise in your relationships!
Char :)