This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at Ithaca chapter and does not reflect the views of Her Campus.
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“Times New Roman”‘>Become comfortable with yourself. Do you in spite of anyone else…especially guys. No guy likes a girl who overanalyzes any situation, especially when he’s involved. He calls you. Don’t think he’s ready to propose. He wants to take some time apart. Don’t jump to the conclusion that he never cared in the first place. He wants your number. Don’t think that he’s
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“Times New Roman”‘>Secondly, I must make this clear as well. If your man or whomever offers you something in gift form, not because they feel compelled to, accept it IF YOU CHOOSE. Never feel compelled to accept something it holds no significant value, otherwise it’s just baggage. These gifts I speak about are common to everyone. Friends showing up at your door crying like there’s no tomorrow. A classmate who is at his last attempt to making a passing grade in a class. A guy who only texts you when he thinks you are most vulnerable. In all situations, do exactly what your mind leads you to do. Just make sure that it is EXACTLY WHAT YOU WANT TO DO. You are the only person in the world who can grant you permission to do anything in the world. And I do mean that earnestly. You want to wear that see-thru lace dress to the club? Make sure that you’re wearing some badass heels to compliment. See 22 inches of Remy in the beauty supply store? Protect every track sewn in your head; it’s yours. You want to say exactly how you feel towards someone? Make sure you mean every word and don’t regret them once they leave your lips. You want to take some one up on their offer for that drink? Take it and don’t be ashamed of the consequences.
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“Times New Roman”‘>Whatever type of personality you have, embrace it fully. Whatever God has blessed you with, flaunt it. Don’t be afraid to question society and its restraints. No one else in the world can even afford to grant you permission to act, say, or stand for something, and why? Because no one likes to bear a false burden. Give yourself permission to do what you want, wear what you want, and react to the world in whatever way you deem feasible, and do it
mso-bidi-font-family:”Times New Roman”‘>. I myself am coming to terms with this as I type, and everyday of my life. My friends and I are forever having late night conversations about what we would do if we weren’t under the scope of society’s expectations. No matter where you go, you will always be under some kind of scope. Maybe it’s because you’re black. Maybe it’s because you’re not. Maybe it’s because the only thing you feel comfortable in is cotton leggings. Maybe it’s because you don’t feel comfortable in your body. Whatever the case may be, something always has the potential to set you apart. Embrace it and don’t give a care about who’s watching. After all, you are the main attraction of your own life.