‘Tis the season for stress, nasty weather and overwhelming family functions. This time of year frequently brings out the worst in people due to its hectic nature. How can one balance family, end-of-semester deadlines and the emotional weight that winter tends to bring? The answer is simple: staying present. Staying grounded in the moment can soften the intensity of the season and help you actually enjoy the small things that make winter meaningful.
Take much-needed breaks
The holiday season can feel extremely hectic, especially when gift shopping or going from event to event. I recommend that when planning your day, you try to incorporate breaks, whether they are brief stretching sessions or full meditation sessions. Breaks not only give you a moment to breathe, but they also help you ground yourself and prevent you from carrying your stress with you throughout the day.
Set Boundaries
Although the holidays are the ideal time to spend with family, sometimes family and friends can be overwhelming and stressful. Just know that it is okay to set boundaries with your family and friends. You are allowed to say no. You are allowed to leave early. You are allowed to choose a quiet night in over another holiday event. Presence isn’t possible when you’re stretched thin, so protecting your energy is a gift you give both to yourself and to the people you care about.
Acknowledge your Emotions
As mentioned, the holidays are stressful and usually revolve around others, sometimes leading to a minimization of your own feelings and emotions. However, I believe that you should prioritize yourself and acknowledge your feelings and opinions. If you are feeling negative feelings, take time for yourself and create a safe space to work through your emotions. If you’re feeling disconnected, reach out to someone you trust. If you’re feeling drained, allow yourself to rest. Presence is about honesty with yourself, not forced positivity.
Mindful Movement
When feeling the intense cold, I would advise incorporating some form of movement rather than hibernating under a blanket. A light stretching session, yoga or even walking around your house can help clear mental fog and keep you motivated during the harsh weather. I am by no means saying not to snuggle up when the weather gets cold, but rather the goal is simply to reconnect with your body when your mind feels scattered.
Allow yourself to Feel Joy Without Guilt
Finally, allow yourself to spend time with those you care about the most and have fun this season! Sip your hot chocolate. Rewatch your favorite childhood movie. Wrap yourself in the coziest blanket you own and let yourself be fully immersed in joy. The holidays are about joy, so make sure to have the best holiday you can this year!
