College can be full of firsts. First love, first time living on your own and first time feeling like you finally belong somewhere. But, like anything else in life, college has its ups and downs. Learning to juggle life, love and learning can be hard, but it’s not impossible. As a big sister myself, I have the credentials. I am always looking for ways to make my little sister’s life easier and guide her in the right direction. Based on my college experiences, I’ve put together this guide to share some of the lessons I’ve learned along the way.
Venture out & don’t be afraid to try new things
As a timid freshman, I stayed quiet, kept to myself and hid away in my apartment. I liked my routine and stuck with it. So much so that these tendencies continued into my sophomore year. I was active in class and all my clubs, but I wasn’t putting myself out there. This is when I realized I needed to make a change. At the start of my junior year, I stopped saying no and started saying yes. I did things that scared me, hung out with friends I would have never expected and for once, I found myself having weekend plans. I would say that this arguably is the best thing I could have done for myself. So here I am, telling you, not to be scared to put yourself out there!
Evaluate your relationships in life, both romantic and Platonic
It can feel scary to let go of past relationships in life, whether relating to friends or a romantic partner. You may feel obligated to continue to spend time with friends who don’t put as much effort into the relationship as you, simply because you’ve known them forever. But you have to do what’s best for you! Sometimes, change can be uncomfortable. And that’s okay. But if that friend is consistently flaking on you or not prioritizing your friendship, it might be time to say goodbye. Don’t ever settle for less, because I can always guarantee that you deserve more!
Every day is a learning lesson
Rejection is redirection. Did you do badly on an exam? Take this opportunity and learn from it! Meet up with your professor or TA, find where you’re struggling in the class and utilize a new study approach. Got rejected from an RSO or sorority? Find other ways to stay involved on campus! Don’t let a simple no prevent you from bettering yourself in the meantime. Can’t secure an internship? Focus on things that you can control! Join a new club, apply for a new leadership position and come up with a game plan. No one ever said college would be easy, but that’s what makes it so important! Don’t let your mistakes define you; just be sure to come back even stronger.
