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Behind the Headlines: The Menendez Brothers

This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at Illinois State chapter.

Imagine growing up in a home where safety and unconditional love was an illusion, only to have the world discover the truth of your suffering. For Erik and Lyle Menendez, the summer of 1989 marked a tragic turning point, as the brutal murders of their parents, José and Kitty Menendez, shocked the nation. Yet, behind the headlines lies a complex story of family dynamics, trauma, and the quest for understanding. For over three decades, the Menendez case has raised critical questions about the nature of abuse and the justice system’s treatment of male victims of sexual assault. Their story continues to resonate, particularly in our media-driven 21st century.

“The followers who are younger that are in that TikTok generation, they really have tremendous hope,” Lyle said. “Young people have taken the time to figure out what happened, and they understand it in ways that older people don’t. I feel more hope when society seems to be understanding of sex abuse even better.”

The Menendez family epitomized the American Dream in an affluent Beverly Hills home where they appeared to be the picture of wealth and happiness. José was a successful businessman, while Kitty was an elementary school teacher until she had the boys. Although, beneath this veneer of privilege, Erik and Lyle reported enduring severe physical and emotional abuse, which ultimately drove them to murder their parents. This duality highlights an important truth: abuse can exist in seemingly perfect families, complicating our perceptions of victims.

On August 20, 1989, Erik and Lyle shot their parents in cold blood. The murders were so violent that the police initially suspected the mob had been involved. Initially presenting themselves as devastated sons—Erik was 18, and Lyle was 21—the brothers soon became suspects as details of their troubled upbringing emerged. Were they motivated by greed, or were they desperately trying to escape their trauma?

About six months following the crime, authorities got an unexpected tip from Judalon Smyth, the mistress of Erik’s psychologist, Jerome Oziel. She informed the police that Erik had admitted to the murders during therapy sessions and that there were audio recordings of these confessions. This led to the brothers’ arrest in March 1990, sparking a lengthy legal battle over whether Oziel’s recordings could be used as evidence.

The trials captivated the nation, with the first trial in July 1993 ending in a hung jury. While public sympathy leaned toward the brothers, the jury remained divided—men largely viewed them as guilty, while women were more sympathetic to their claims of abuse.

21-year-old Lyle Menendez on the stand in 1993 getting emotional bringing his trauma back to life.

The second trial in 1995 marked a seismic shift. During the two-year gap, Lyle had formed many connections, and contacted many people, asking them to accuse his dad for things he has never done, and this was only because. Lyle also had formed a connection with Norma Novelli, who recorded their conversations and later published a book portraying him negatively. Lyle, choosing not to testify, left Erik to paint a vivid picture of their abuse. Despite the defense’s insistence that the brothers were victims of long-term trauma, the judge restricted key testimony regarding their abuse, leading to a guilty verdict. In March of 1996, the brothers were charged with first-degree murder and sentenced to life in prison without the possibility of parole.

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Here is a clip of Erik Menendez, durning his cross examination. The prosecution who is asking these questions is Mr Kuriyama. Now it shows here, that Mr Kuriyama is trying to act smart, by making it seem as if Erik was lying about everything that had happened to him. He also said because of the therapy and medication he takes, he must be creating and imagining these things, so he has something to testify to. Erik has work a lot in therapy. He’s learned how to be more open. Im ever so proud of him (and Lyle). #freethemenendezbrothers #justiceforthemenendezbrothers #menendezbrothers #erikmenendez #lylemenendez #foryou #foryoupage #menendez #fypシ #fyp #viral #courttv #victim

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26-year-old Erik Menendez on the stand in 1996 being accused of lying.

Media portrayals often sensationalize their story, especially in the recent Netflix series Monsters, which has been criticized for spreading falsehoods, including unfounded claims of an incestuous relationship. This narrative casts the brothers as manipulative rather than as victims, challenging the perception of male survivors in a society that often views men as perpetrators. Erik has also criticized the Netflix series for its misleading portrayal. Luckily, there is a brand new Netflix documentary titled The Menendez Brothers, which came out on October 7th, 2024. It offers a unique perspective by featuring interviews with both 53 year-old Erik and 55-year-old Lyle, allowing viewers to hear firsthand accounts of the events surrounding the tragic murders of their parents in 1989. This direct access to both Erik and Lyle’s perspective provides a clearer understanding of the brothers’ motivations and the complexities of their upbringing, while also enabling viewers to engage with the facts and emotional weight of the case, providing a deeper exploration of their trauma, family dynamics, and the justice system.

One particularly important quote from the documentary comes from Lyle as he recounts his childhood abuse in court: “I would much rather lose the murder trial than talk about our past, and what had happened.” Despite everything these men have endured, 30 years later, they are still sharing their story with the public, especially their experiences of abuse. One of the most emotional parts of the documentary focuses on Erik. Dr. Ann Burgess, a defense expert, explains how she had Erik create illustrations to process the abuse and the murders. She asked him to draw the events leading up to the murders, resulting in 12 to 14 sketches. Dr. Burgess likens it to a mini-Rorschach test, helping Erik express what he hadn’t fully talked about. The drawings, later shown, include haunting phrases like “Get back here you bastard” and “I’m not going to let you touch my little brother ever again.” The fact that these men are still processing such deep trauma decades later, through chilling details like these, only reinforces how profoundly disturbing and heartbreaking their story truly is.

On Thursday, October 24th, 2024, Los Angeles District Attorney George Gascón recommended the Menendez brothers’ life-without-parole sentences be thrown out and they be resentenced and immediately eligible for parole. Their next hearing is scheduled for November 29. The resurgence of interest in their case has been fueled by social media discussions and public figures like Kim Kardashian, who argue that the brothers were denied a fair trial and suggest a different outcome might occur today. This renewed focus also highlights the pervasive influence of the media, which has often perpetuated fallacies and negative stereotypes about the brothers, complicating public perception and shaping the narrative around their actions. No one’s arguing that they didn’t kill their parents, but they’re saying the level of culpability would be so low that after 36 years, they should be out,” said Brian Buckmire, a criminal defense attorney and contributor at ABC News.

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Cooper Koch, who plays Erik Menendez in “Monsters,” details his “inspiring” visit with Kim Kardashian to the Menendez brothers in prison. Plus, he shares how he responded to Erik’s criticism of the show as inaccurate. #menendez #menendezbrothers #menendezjustice #menendezbrotherscase #erikmenendez #lylemenedez #cooperkoch #nicholasalexanderchavez #netflix

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Cooper Koch, who played Erik in the Netflix series Monsters, voices how he met the Menendez brothers with Kardashian.

The Menendez brothers’ story resonates with many who have experienced familial abuse, emphasizing the lasting effects of trauma. Research shows that childhood abuse can lead to significant mental health challenges, complicating the narratives surrounding victims’ choices later in life. This discussion is crucial for both men and women, and as a society, we need to understand that a victim can not only be a female. We as a society need to begin understanding the complexities of trauma, and how to foster empathy and support for survivors. Organizations like the National Domestic Violence Hotline provide essential resources, underscoring the need for accessible support systems. By amplifying survivor narratives, we can work toward a more compassionate society that prioritizes understanding over judgment.

Nadeen Hassen

Illinois State '25

Nadeen is a 23-year-old Libra with a passion for teaching high school English, set to graduate in Fall '25. Her biggest personality trait is her love for collecting vinyl records; when she’s not doing that, she’s likely watching a true crime documentary. She is very excited to be part of the Her Campus ISU chapter, where she can freely express herself and write about the topics that make her the happiest.