Break ups. We have all been there. Learning to cope with new feelings can be difficult and may lead you right back into your ex’s arms. However, we’ve put together 5 ideas that you can do to become more independent and aid you in the healing process.
Being their best friend- NOT OK.
While you love this person to death, being friends will not work. At least not right away. Don’t fall for the ‘I see you more as a friend’ crap. You need a clean break to be able to clear your head and properly get over him. Eventually you may be able to be friends in the future after you both have moved on in your lives but staying around will only create problems because one of you will still want more than just a friendship. Lose all communication methods between you two i.e. Facebook, phone numbers, e-mail. Keeping them only leaves a way to get back in touch when you feel lonely.
Be Social.
Sometimes during/after a breakup we just want to be alone and sulk in our bed, but in excessive amounts of time, this can be detrimental to your mental health. If you start noticing signs of depression you need to make some changes in your life. Make sure you surround yourself around positive people who love you for you. Have girls nights, and go out and just be social. It will help you get your mind of your ex and look forward to a new future for yourself. Be careful not to spend too much time with the girls who just want to bad talk your ex, because while it might feel good to call him an asshole for 5 seconds, maybe he really wasn’t an asshole and you genuinely still love him. Spending time with the wrong people can lead to a really nasty downward spiral and this will not help you successfully move on in your life.
I’m Sexy and I know It.
The first thing we go to eat after an emotional breakup, is comfort food. For some it might be an apple or yogurt but for most of us, it tends to be on the complete opposite end of the health spectrum. Ice cream, bon bons, cake, cheesecake is all super amazing and in all honesty it makes you happy but don’t go overboard. Be sure to limit the comfort food in small proportions. After a breakup, the best revenge and the number one way to make a single girl comeback is to get back in shape. There’s no better feeling than going to the gym and letting some steam off on the treadmill or in cardio kick boxing.
Exercise relieves stress and releases endorphins that make you feel good making it an amazing coping mechanism. Who knows, you may even get to flirt with the hottie across the way who’s abs look more like a multiplication table than a stomach. So join that gym and get sweaty.
Let’s Go Shopping.
Before we talk about how good retail therapy makes us feel, know that it is only a temporary feeling and it is NOT ok to become a shopaholic. Shopping makes us feel good about ourselves, looking in the mirror, trying on that new dress that makes your butt look amazing, searching for that perfect handbag, its all an amazing rush of that ‘new’ feeling. If you plan on shopping, which most of us do, set a budget or only carry cash and leave your credit cards out of reach. This way it’s a perfect mix of the aroma of a new shirt and not breaking the bank.
Let Loose, But not too Loose.
Go out, drink a few cocktails, flirt with that guy at the bar. Rebounding is just a natural reaction to a breakup. Don’t go looking for your next boyfriend right away, it will not be a pretty relationship because usually we go for the opposite of the guy we just broke up with (could be a bad guy or a good guy just be careful). If you pursue any guy make it clear that you just want to have fun and aren’t looking to marry him and have his children. There’s nothing wrong with a little fun, but don’t go all out man crazy. That is just another set up for a long string of really bad regret.
Breakups are not one bit easy, they take time so give yourself time to heal. You aren’t going to be over him overnight so don’t for one second think you will. Spend this time learning who you are and gaining confidence as an individual before you go on to the next relationship. Cry, get mad, shop, eat, work out, drink, party, cry more. Its all part of the woman’s natural healing process but in the end, you will be happy so be optimistic. We all have a prince charming out there somewhere.
Sources:
http://www.examiner.com/break-up-in-boston/using-exercise-as-a-coping-strategy-after-a-break-up
http://www.sheknows.com/sheknows-plus/articles/815636/4-exercises-for-moving-on-post-break-up-1
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