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This article is written by a student writer from the Her Campus at Hunter chapter.

Home of Instagram’s finest “hot guys reading” and “hot guys on the subway,” dating in New York City is incredibly hard. Although there may be a plethora of hot males, there’s a serious shortage of communication and genuine interest. Funny, right? In a city flanked with people, one would think it’s easy to meet and talk to others. But, that’s not the case at all. Packed into a subway car is the one time you will ever be so close to someone, but you will never walk away with getting his or her number. Trust me when I tell you, you won’t even make eye contact. It is very true that New York is a breeding ground for some of the hottest guys, but they simply aren’t approachable for many reasons.

But why is it so hard to snag a boyfriend if there are endless possibilities? It’s pretty simple if you walk down the city streets every day. Everyone is on their own, we find peace within our solitude and if there ever comes a time in which our solitude is interrupted we become angry, very angry. There’s not a single time you will catch me riding the subway without my earphones in and my music loud enough to block out the sounds of the subway. It’s clear that I’m setting myself up to be left alone, no hot guy on the subway is daring enough to approach a girl with a straight face jamming to Justin Bieber. It is what it is, I’ll be alone forever because of my urge for peace in New York City.

Not only do we set ourselves up for solitude, but we also already know enough people. Why would we even bother to approach a complete stranger if our friends have connections to other singles? By relying on our friends to do the matchmaking for us, it saves us the time and embarrassment of being let down by a stranger. If we already know people, we definitely don’t go out of our way to meet people. If one person doesn’t do it, the rest of us are left waiting.

If you thought moving to New York City and going out on dates every weekend was going to come naturally, you were very mistaken. If you really want to meet people you have to do the unthinkable, and go out of your way. Make a Tinder profile or get drunk at a bar to give you enough courage to talk to guys; getting out of your comfort zone is key.


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