Just putting it out there that I am not a professional! I am speaking from only my personal experience with hopes that you guys can take something from this.
I’m writing this right after an odd breakup. Not referring to the one in January but the one I experienced in March.
A lot of difficult decisions and red-flags you are signaled are ignored by other parts of your body. You may not even notice and understand these red-flags because some parts are much louder than others. It’s important to identify and listen to your gut-feeling but sometimes it’s tough to listen to them. We make up different scenarios in hopes of a better outcome in difficult situations but in reality, your gut is never wrong.
I was given a difficult decision to continue my self-love journey alone or allow somebody I loved back into my life. The decision was extremely difficult for me to make. The need for immediate relief overcame the understanding and patience to make the RIGHT decision. I messed up, big time! I prolonged the healing process of my breakup but this time it’s easier.
Referring to my parts article, we need to listen to all parts! Here are some helpful tips for you to listen to ALL your parts!
- Quiet Red-Flags!
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When we sense red-flags they send us some signals that’ll let us know there’s DANGER! However, if you are an emotion heavy person you’re probably going to ignore these signs. Take a moment to listen to all the red-flags, write them down, do the pros and cons list. You need to see the red flags to believe them!
- Take a Step Back
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During situations that spike up our anxiety, we look for immediate relief. Being impatient will only cause more issues to occur. Take a step back and process everything. Making rash decisions and thinking it through while making the decision on the spot might not be the best. Take some time to yourself, make a hot drink (or cold), and sit back to go through your thought process.
- Talk About It
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If the red-flags are too quiet for you to hear, you need to hear it from your friends. This may or may not work (didn’t work for me) depending on how self-destructive you are or lack of faith in your friends. If your friends are telling you the same things you are thinking or doubting, its most likely the right choice.
- It’s Your Choice!
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At the end of the day, regardless of what you choose don’t forget to acknowledge the consequences and be prepared for it. It is your choice what you choose to do. At the end of the day, you learn from it! There are no losses, just gains man.
It is never easy to make a difficult decision, but you can do it. There is no rush into making the tough decision (unless its life-changing). Talk about it, write it out, and take your time before jumping into anything. Go at your time and your pace, you come first all the time no matter what the situation is.