How to Friends (With Benefits) Zone Yourself

It can be hard to toe the line between a hook up and a relationship. That’s why it’s so important to make it clear what you want out of a relationship. While direct communication is key, here are a few ways to make sure you don’t send mixed signals when all you want is a hook up.

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Make song recommendations

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Send them a personalized playlist

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Ask them out for drinks

DON’T

Ask them out for coffee, a mid-day activity, or a fancy date

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Stay the night if you’re both game

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Leave a toothbrush, clothes, etc at their place

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Call them friendly nicknames, like Dude

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Call them cutesy nicknames, like Boo, Baby, Sweetie, Love, Honey, etc.

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Be affectionate in private

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Go for the hello or good bye kiss, especially in public

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Meet the roommates

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Invite yourself over to hang out with them

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Text when you wanna meet up

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Text them all day

Honestly, the best thing to do is to be upfront, both with them, and with yourself. If you want something casual, be casual, and if you don't, then don't. Make it clear, and get on with doing you <3