In college, knowing if someone is really into you can get tricky. Guys and girls both will play around and don’t always tell you what it is from the jump. I know firsthand that the in-between phase can be frustrating. It may seem like they like you, but you never seem to get out of the talking stage and into that real relationship you’re craving. Here are a few signs that you may be headed toward a situationship.
- They never take you out in public
When you’re seeing someone, you want to feel seen. It’s okay if they’re not posting you 24/7, but every now and then you may want to go out to eat, or attend an event together. If they never offer to take you anywhere, or make excuses when you try to go somewhere with them, chances are they’re not ready to take it to that step.
- They only ask to see you at night
It’s one thing to not go out in public together, but not even being able to see your partner in the daytime is a red flag. You’re not a roach! You don’t need to be creeping out past 11 to see your partner. If they never make time for you during the day, it’s probably because they don’t want to. Busy schedules happen, but if it’s constant then something is up.
- It’s all about sex
Being in a relationship for most people should go beyond the physical level. Intimacy is about more than just sex, but for someone who just wants a situationship, they may reject any affection beyond it.
- They avoid clarifying “what you are”
No one wants to be that person – the one who has to ask “sooo what are we?” But you also don’t want to waste your time with someone who doesn’t want the same thing as you. They may avoid clarifying your relationship, or are always dodgy about making plans for the future. This is a sign that they don’t want anything more serious at the moment.
- They’re incosistent
There’s almost nothing worse than being with someone who’s inconsistent. If they constantly cancel plans, or make excuses about why they can’t hang out, let them go. Consistency is key in any relationship and having someone who can’t be solid is likely to cause problems down the line.
At the end of the day, there’s nothing wrong with being in a situationship if that is what you and your partner agree on. But if you want more out of your relationship and they’re exhibiting any of these signs, you don’t want to ignore the red flags.